how do you figure out what you want from life?

[PussyCatDoll]

my bf knows me better than anyone else. he says that I'm not happy with where i am in my life. he says that i either want to be past this 'stage' or before this 'stage'.

this 'stage' being the uni/work uni/work cycle. he also says that no matter what i do i am forever wishing that i am past that stage or before it.

obviously, he has based his conclusions on what I've told him, what he's seen of me and what I've told him over the last 3 years.

I've moaned to him and been a complete bitch at times, and still he has stuck by me.

i don't know what i want from life. i want to do great things you know?i wana see the world. i just don't understand why I'm never happy.

my recent idea to study a semester in the states has miserably failed, so i guess it gives me something else to moan about.

i can't help it. i moan and bitch and talk to much. maybe i'm being hard on me i duno. how do you figure out what the hell you want from life?

[DoesntMatter]

One way to find out is when you don't get it, you'll feel crappy

[miSSleepy]

I don't know how anyone can not know what they want from life. In fact, you've just told me that you want to do great things and see the world. Maybe your issue is that you're stuck in a rut and see no way out.
Give it time. If your job sux, get a new one. Find some intrinsic value at uni, motivate yourself by doing activities other than study. `

[Mish]

i don't know what i want from life. i want to do great things you know?i wana see the world. i just don't understand why I'm never happy.

I think the question you're asking is "How can I enjoy life"? (Not "how do you figure out what you want from life?") Because life is a journey, not a destination. You can only learn how make the best of every moment.

So is it a question of how to enjoy life and how to be happy? Because you don't need to do great things for that. You can enjoy life and have very precious and memorable moments with the littlest resources available.

[misombra]

you can do whatever you want with your life. the sky's the limit.

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[bluesummer]

I was where you were, so I know what you mean. I only figured out what I really want from life in the last year or so, and I'm 28.

A really important thing to ask yourself (a lot of people fail to do this) is whether or not you are pursuing something in your university studies that you really enjoy. Are you slaving away at school just to get a piece of paper, or are you really working towards a career that you really want and know you'll enjoy? If you're not, all that time at school feels like (and maybe even is) a waste.

Secondly, write down the things that you feel are things you absolutely MUST accomplish in your life. This could be travel, learn a language, learn to play guitar, whatever. Figure out how you could work these things into your life without causing too much interruption to your work/school schedule. It will add some enjoyment and sense of accomplishment to your life.

I spent four years slaving away in school, not knowing what I wanted to do. So I dropped out for four years. I did a few of the things I felt necessary to make me feel like I'd accomplished something.....one of those big things was travel. I felt better about myself, and in the process discovered the direction I wanted to go with my future career. So now I'm back in school, working towards that.....there's a goal in sight and a sense of purpose. As I go, I'm slowly adding in little things that I deem important for my happiness....for me right now, that is learning how to golf.

So just think about it. What makes you happy? Pursue happiness, and you will always have a sense of purpose.

[PussyCatDoll]

thanks for your replies.

i changed my course once already, and i'm pretty sure now the course i'm on is better for me and also is'nt the reason for this.

me wanting to move countries to go to school i think was me lashing out, wanting to do something.

when i've found what it is, i'll let you guys know.
thanks again