Some passing thoughts on roles in relationship
Just a place to put my abstract thoughts of late on the subject
I've been thinking lately about the purposes behind male logically driven and female emotionally driven perspectives on the relationships and how these tie in together. And this is what I came up with:
Girl's emotional attachment is the glue that holds the relationship together while guy's ability to stir up those emotions inside of her is the foundation. Take away this emotional attachment and the house (relationship) will simply fall apart since theres nothing to hold it together. Take away the foundation and the walls will cave in due to the lack of any substance to keep them in place.
Mutual understanding forms the basis and contract by which both can interact. Without this there can be no relationship no matter how hard any party tries to build one with whatever tools at their disposal.
I.e. Take away the girl's emotional attachment and no amount of
logic will hold the relationship in place. Take away guy's ability, will and creativity to keep the girl's emotional reality stimulated and the feelings will simply no longer be there, making relationship impossible. Take away the mutual understanding that generates these drives and watch the relationship systematically decline.
Also, an observation of interest
Guys (mostly) think in perspectives that have value in logical, planning and practical concepts. It's logical that a guy with this value should be with girl of this value. X amount is required to plan for the future. X amount needs to be in place. Goals how to reach it. If it's not a solid logical concept that doesn't make sense it might as well not exist. Feelings aren't really very important, they can be conjured up of thin air, they are material to build things and tools to reach goals. Logic is most important discipline on how to arrive there, it has to make sense to do anything.
Girls (mostly) think in perspectives that have value in emotional, connectivity and interpretory value concepts. It's logical that a guy who feels this for girl who feels that should be together. Future planning is important, but feelings and connection will be the discipline on how the two will arrive there. The most solid plans only work if they have a grounding in emotional reality. If there is no connection or deep feeling relationship might as well not exist. Logic in itself is not very important, it can be conjured up of thin air, they are material to build things and tools to reach goals. Feelings is the most important discipline on how to arrive there, it has to feel right to do anything.
Of course, not trying to separate the two entirely. Both guys and girls can be both logical and emotional, at times equally, at times even in reverse. These are just my thoughts on "default" operating model for each gender. The default point of view from which either operates. Bearing in mind, there are many points of view.
Damn it, this is the longest piece of crap I've written in awhile
Thoughts?
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~