what should i do?

[george85]

I really don't know what to do - could anyone give me some advice? Here is the situation:

I have been with my current gf for abt 2.5 years now (she is my first gf). Unfortunately last year from about August to December she was not treating me nicely - never wanted to spend time or talk to me - was always busy, yelled at me for no reasons... During that time I realized I don't want to spend my life with her. At the end of December I started reading a blog of some girl from the same school. At about the same time I tried to break up with my gf but she was rly sad and cried and I decided to give it another chance. She started behaving nicely but it didn't seem natural to me. I tried until now but I couldn't regain my feelings for her no matter how hard I tried. I was also reading the other girl's blog and I realized I really want to meet her cuz she seemed as an interesting person. I wasn't sure if that was a temporary so I deleted my blog and hence I had no way of reading her posts. I tried to forget about her but I realized I can't. This made me even more sure that I can't regain my feelings for my gf. I decided to tell everythign to my gf - that I think it is too late for me to regain my feelings and that I have been reading other girls blogs and that she seemed an interesting person. I didn't talk much to her online - basically just comments to her posts to which she replied. I came up to her once and had a short conversation with her at school and we say hi to each other since then when walking by but nothing big - I didnt want to have a long conversation since I'm still in relationship. I therefore tried to break up with my gf again but she would not let me - she kept on crying, telling me how she can't be with anyone else, asking why do I want to meet some stranger, asking if she really means nothing to me - for example if a car hit her. That scared me because I don't want her to do anything stupid. Now I am rly depressed cuz I dunno what to do - I would like to meet the other girl but I can't approach her since I am in a relationship but on the other hand I have no feelings for my gf but I am afraid she may hurt herself or something if we break up:\ I feel like a bird closed in a cage:\\ I know she loves me but can't she understand heart can't be forced? Also I am afraid she may talk to the other girl and scare her away in an attempt to not let me go. What should I do??

[IndiReloaded]

You're not in love with your GF. Normal around the 2 year mark, BTW to figure this out.

The fact she's clingy changes nothing. Only how you feel about the relationship matters. If you love her, stay. If you don't, go.

You AREN'T doing her a kindness by staying, you know. She needs to move on too so she can find someone who loves her. Sucks, but the strong one is often the one who handles the burden of the breakup.

[vashti]

She won't LET you break up? Honey, she can't STOP you. She is manipulating you with her tears and subtle threats. I think you should tell her you ARE breaking up, and let her parents know you are concerned about her emotional well-being. After that, you have no moral responsibility for her. People break up all the time, and the world continues to turn.

[FoxyLaydee]

She's using emotional manipulation! Argh! There is nothing that can stop you from breaking it off with her. You both deserve to be happy but just not with each other. Like Vashti said, break ups happen all the time - it ain't the end of the world!