Manning up in my relationship?

[vashti]

Aww, damn! I wanna be like that!!

:snicker:

[IndiReloaded]

Indi, how about this comparison?

Success vs Happiness

Both equally as important and having partners which move relationship in these directions brings good balance.

I'm thinking, the virtue of a dominant person will be success. In social circumstances, in business, in finding best partner, having best resources, having good vision and plan for the future. While virtue of submissive person will be the level of happiness in business / work life, in family life, relationships and so on. The emphasis will be on how happy are we regardless of how much success we have. Maybe having less success, but being more happy is a better alternative, will be the drive.

Its true the submissive partner often sets the 'tone' in a relationship. 'Happy wife (trophy husband?), happy life' again.

I like the idea around success<-->happiness. I haven't seen relationships where the 'dominant' partner is able to do all you mention (its usually one or two & the other partner excels at the others) but I do think there's something to what you say.

I think of this as more 'generation of opportunity/resources' and 'application of opportunity/resources'. The dominant partner in a situation will, through their skills & drive, create an opportunity (income being the most common example) & the partner will then (hopefully) put it to good use in an agreed upon way to maximize the happiness of the partnership.

How 'bout trying that on for size?

I hope the OP is finding this interesting....& somewhat related to the topic?

[misombra]

sorry vashhhhh.

i'd demand you did petty chores for me too but you're just too dominant.

it's really too bad.

[vashti]

Yeah, but can I touch your radio?

[IndiReloaded]

yeah maybe if we were as submissive as indi we might all be in business.

hey indi, go make me a drink and do my laundry.

Okay. Here's your drink. I sent your laundry to the Chinaman down the street. Lloyd is working as fast as he can.

[IndiReloaded]

I'm laughing because he called you "submissive", indi, and apparently meant it as a compliment.

I got no problem being submissive, so long as I get my turn on top.

Mish is just teasing. He wishes he met me first & 20 years ago.

Got a younger sister, Mish. She looks like the chick w/the poofy lips in Mr & Mrs Smith.

[misombra]

Yeah, but can I touch your radio?

i don't mind but mish might throw a bitch fit.

[IndiReloaded]

Lloyd:

[misombra]

lloyd better hurry the hell up with my laundry!

[Mish]

However, there is always a second layer of thought taking place.. ALWAYS.. and that second layer actually looks at the broader picture.. "Wait, is this a remote incident, or is this part of a long-run trend that i've had to deal with and will continue to have to deal with? Has she made any reasonable progress or improvement in managing her emotional outbreaks? Is she being as considerate to me as i'm being to her? I understand that she's over-reacting right now, but what does this behavior exactly mean given all the details and history?".

I hear you Scorp. This was one of the main reason I decided to just walk and continue walking. It wasn't the first time it happened and I remember having a long and deep conversation with her about these outbursts and she said she will change. But she couldn't, this was part of who she was. I just didn't want to continue being the constant mender. I could've fixed things between us, but I decided not to.

I realize I've made the right decision, we weren't compatible together me and her.

[Mish]

I think of this as more 'generation of opportunity/resources' and 'application of opportunity/resources'. The dominant partner in a situation will, through their skills & drive, create an opportunity (income being the most common example) & the partner will then (hopefully) put it to good use in an agreed upon way to maximize the happiness of the partnership.

Yeh, I was also looking at it like that. I like how you put it Indi.

[Mish]

I'm laughing because he called you "submissive", indi, and apparently meant it as a compliment.

Ah, missed this one

To have you know, most guys I know find dominant women a HUGE turn off and avoid them the moment they see the signs. With the exception of the very feminine and very submissive guys.

Think about it, what guy would would to be viewed as the always submissive one in a relationship?

[vashti]

You live in a world of black and white, mish. You need some color.

[misombra]

...y por eso los grandes amores de muchos colores me gustan a miiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii...

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rJmwUYoJtVY&feature=related"]YouTube - De Colores[/ame]

[Mish]

...y por eso los grandes amores de muchos colores me gustan a miiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii...

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