Help

[boon]

Hi,

There is a girl and I'd like to ask her out. Here is the problem: I don't know her personally, she doesn't know me (She may know me by sight), I don't know where she lives and I don't know anyone who knows her.
I just see her once in a while in school.
The only thing I know is her email address. I was lucky and I stumbled upon her in an online community.

So my only chance to meet her if I write an email to her, but I don't know how to start. I've never done online dating before and I don't want to scare her off.

So my questions: What should I say? What shouldn't I say? Should I ask her for a meeting in the first letter or should I leave it for a little later?

Thanks for any help

[Cain]

Honestly, I'd wait until you see her at school and just start talking to her. You might scare her off by sending her an email since you've never even talked to her and she's going to want to know how you got her email.

[boon]

Honestly, I'd wait until you see her at school and just start talking to her. You might scare her off by sending her an email since you've never even talked to her and she's going to want to know how you got her email.

Well that's the problem. I don't want to scare her off, but I may see her tomorrow or next week or next month and since I'm leaving school at the end of May then I defenitely won't see her again.

[Gigabitch]

That's two month away. Make it happen before then.

The email-out-of-nowhere is not going to make a good case for you. It will tell her that you, for some reason, don't want to face her in person. Her imagination will provide her with many reasons why that might be, none of them very flattering to you.

Just talk to her, man. Don't be weird.

[Cain]

That's two month away. Make it happen before then.

The email-out-of-nowhere is not going to make a good case for you. It will tell her that you, for some reason, don't want to face her in person. Her imagination will provide her with many reasons why that might be, none of them very flattering to you.

Just talk to her, man. Don't be weird.

Not only that, but she's going to wonder how you got her email... it seems kind of stalkerish... even though it's innocent.

[Lozenger]

Ok

I would ask yourself: what is it you like about her if you've never spoken to her?

Then, try saying hello and give her a smile when she passes you in the corridoors or when you meet her eye. If she smiles back, that's a good sign so then go and talk to her asking simple questions like "Hi, how are you?" "How was your weekend?"

Maybe you could go back to the online community to where you found her email, after you have had a few face to face conversations, and say something like "Hey aren't you so-so...." and have a few conversations on there.

Good Luck!