G/F Doesn't know what she wants... I need advice!!!

[danhowe04]

Well she called me again, and I picked up, and she was actually, for the first time, completely irrational. Yelling, crying, saying things I KNOW she doesn't mean, and saying that she shouldn't have trusted me to help pay the rent (I'm not on the lease, and I NEVER wanted to leave or get dumped, so why should I have to pay next month's rent when I can't even live there?) and that she doesn't want me to ever talk to any of her friends/family ever again (even though they pretty much all like me).

After about 45 minutes she kind of calmed down, and I never fought with her or yelled, but I told her why we couldn't be JUST friends. She still seemed mad and likely to never want to talk to me again though.

I'm wondering, is there anything I can do to keep from losing her forever? And even if there's no chance of us going out, what can anyone recommend for staying on good terms? This girl has been my best friend and is (until the last 3 weeks) a really great person.

[Tommy]

Well she called me again, and I picked up, and she was actually, for the first time, completely irrational. Yelling, crying, saying things I KNOW she doesn't mean, and saying that she shouldn't have trusted me to help pay the rent (I'm not on the lease, and I NEVER wanted to leave or get dumped, so why should I have to pay next month's rent when I can't even live there?) and that she doesn't want me to ever talk to any of her friends/family ever again (even though they pretty much all like me).

After about 45 minutes she kind of calmed down, and I never fought with her or yelled, but I told her why we couldn't be JUST friends. She still seemed mad and likely to never want to talk to me again though.

I'm wondering, is there anything I can do to keep from losing her forever? And even if there's no chance of us going out, what can anyone recommend for staying on good terms? This girl has been my best friend and is (until the last 3 weeks) a really great person.

You already have lost her.... It's a cycle man. Get out while you are ahead. She is using her control over you to make you somehow fiscally responsible for "her" lease. That's not right, and she's using it as leverage acting like she will never talk to you again if you DON'T help her. That's not fair to you.

Worry about you, let her worry about her.

The only thing I would say differently, is if you CHOSE to help pay the rent for her benefit, but she EXPECTS it.... If she asked for the help because she couldn't afford it and you did then i'd have no problem,. But now she is putting it on your shoulders like you are a bad person and is using her relationship leverage to get you to do what she wants....

[FoxyLaydee]

She'll soon realise the grass isn't always greener on the other side..