I don't know what to do

[vashti]

Go see for yourself how cliche the professor-student crush is, and then ask yourself if you really want to go there.

[url]http://www.collegeconfessional.net/[/url]

[url]http://www.ratemyprofessors.com/jive/vodka/viewForum.jsp?forum=2[/url]

[url]http://chronicle.com/forums/[/url]

[jbrowning]

I understand what you're saying. I really do. In fact, if I had been discussing this with you about someone else a year ago, I would be laughing at those people right along with you. When I first met him more than a year ago, I thought it was a harmless little crush-thing that would pass soon. But it didn't.
I don't think it's fair for you to label it as cliche when you don't even know all the details of the dynamic between us.

[lastwish]

wait...one factor left out. Is he married and have kids? That would be...a problem. You don't want to be known as a homewrecker. And raising someone else's kids?Do you want to go that path?

Ya..it sucks he will be moving far away. Long distance relationships are tough.

[jbrowning]

Divorced, no kids.

[caringheart]

Hi,

I'd tell him how you feel. Sure there might be an age gap but sometimes the heart is stronger then the head. I once had a friend who was concerned about an age gap but when she put it on the table the guy was flattered and confessed he felt the same way.

Why not see what happens? You'll never know unless you put it out there.

[vashti]

I understand what you're saying. I really do. In fact, if I had been discussing this with you about someone else a year ago, I would be laughing at those people right along with you. When I first met him more than a year ago, I thought it was a harmless little crush-thing that would pass soon. But it didn't.
I don't think it's fair for you to label it as cliche when you don't even know all the details of the dynamic between us.

Yeah, everyone thinks they have something special. You sound determined to jump into the fire. Be sure to let us know how it works out.

[IndiReloaded]

[url]http://www.ratemyprofessors.com/jive/vodka/viewForum.jsp?forum=2[/url]

LOL, I love that site, its seems to be getting out of vogue w/Facebook now tho.

I wonder if Cam has a 'hotness' rating yet?

[IndiReloaded]

I don't think it's fair for you to label it as cliche when you don't even know all the details of the dynamic between us.

I know plenty about the student-professor relationship, JB. We are just being honest about your chances, which are small next to none. But go ahead & contact this fellow. You never know.

BTW, professor or no, he's divorced. That should be a red flag that this guy likely has some issues. No divorce is ever completely one-sided. Good luck.

[vashti]

LOL, I love that site, its seems to be getting out of vogue w/Facebook now tho.

I like to read their forums. It seems like the only people who post are professors and students with crushes on their professors.

Nevermind Cam - do YOU have any chili peppers?

[Mish]

Mishanya, I don't know if I have the guts to just ask him for coffee. I don't know. We have had coffee before, but it was his idea. I've never been a make-the-first-move kind of girl, but I know that's the only option in this situation. I don't know if he would feel differently if he knew or not.

Ah, you already had coffee? That's even better. That means it wouldn't even be an initiation. You can just ask him if he could meet you at the same coffee place as last time as you would like to thank him for all his help before he leaves. That's not so scary is it? It's not like you're asking for a date, you're asking to catch up and then see where it goes from there

[jbrowning]

The coffee thing sounds great, and I think I could probably get over my fear, and just ask--but the problem is, I still don't think he would get the picture. I thought he knew for a long time, because I do a REALLY bad job of hiding it, but after thinking of the past few days, I'm pretty sure he doesn't. I would pretty much just have to beat him over the head with it, as much as I don't want to.