i don't know what to do

[what99]

hello there,
I have a crush on this guy at work and told him (big mistake lolz) now i'm in trouble, he told me that he is not looking for a relationship from work and he is not ready (which I think it is probably an excuse, he probably tried to reject me in a nice way). We chat everyday at work ( I message him first everyday). Now the reason why I posted this message up because I don't know if he replies to me message everyday because he is bored at work or simply just because of courtesy. What is the chance that he likes me ? I know he likes talking to me...but how can I really know if "for looking for a relationship at work" is an excuse? Its kinda hard on me right now, I like talking to him but I like him more and more each day. Thanks for reading the post

[yppiZ]

Well, sounds like this guy wants to be nice and not hurt your feelings with the "sorry, I don't really like you" line. Although, that doesn't mean he wants nothing to do with you, he can still be a really good friend, and this guy knowing that you like him probably made him real comfortable with you, or at least just brought up his self-esteem maybe. You would know that he's just being courteous by what he's saying in his messages, you can pick that up by knowing how much time he cares to spend by sending you these messages. There is a small possibility you still have a chance.

[FoxyLaydee]

He probably enjoys talking to you or is replying out of courtesy. You guys are colleagues, you know.

That said, I don't think it's a good idea to date someone from work.

[asinglelovenote]

be honest. if its meant to be, its meant to be.

[bluesummer]

I think he was just being nice, too. Just because you asked him out though, it doesn't mean he doesn't want to be friendly with you still.

Does HE ever message YOU first? If not, maybe you should tone down the messaging a bit, you might start to look a little stalker-ish.

Oh, and Foxy's right....you shloudn't date people from work. Worst idea ever.

[what99]

Thanks yppi2, Foxy, asingle, and blue for reading the message. Hmmm.. I think i'm gonna give up on him. We chat everyday after I posted that message...(on msn) sometimes even until 2 am...but he havent been online for last few days...and today he totally ignored me...not worth the time ;-) but thanks everyone

[gHEXjt]

If you are always the one to initiate conversations w/him, then he may be replying out of courtesy...give him a few days to be the one to initiate conversation.

[DharmicLove]

Yea, girl, I agree with alot these other people. The fact is, you guys are colleagues. These situations hardly ever work out for the better. Say something happens between the two of you and then you begin to feel awkward. At work??? It'll make you want to quit.

My lady, is this guy cute or what?

[Nice Lover Boy]

so any update on this guy? Has he question why things got a little too dry on the social side?