I've been dating a wonderful gal for 5 months now, but she's pretty insecure about her appearance. She's in good shape and would look wonderful in modern styles, but she tends to hide herself behind bulky clothes all the time. She's also not especially adept with makeup. The only actual appearance fault that isn't imagined is that her eyebrows are a bit odd, but she wears her bangs very long to hide them (which I think detracts from her face). I didn't realize it when we met, and the way she acts around me I almost refuse to believe it, but she's a very homebody kind of gal, studies hard, doesn't have many friends. When we're together though she's happy and cheerful and loves to go out and see some night life.
We're going to las vegas on vacation, and while I was really looking forward to getting out on the town after being stuck working long hours and long shifts for the past few months, I get the distinct impression she's terribly nervous about it and not at all enthusiastic. She complains regularly about her appearance and always knocks herself down (and constantly jokes that I'm delusional when I say good things about her).
I was thinking I might buy her a gift certificate to a make over / beauty salon. A couple of my exes have gone to such places routinely, but my gf never goes, and very rarely even has her hair done. (her hair is very long and well taken care of, very lovely).
I love her personality, her kindness, her intelligence, and the way she treats other people, (including the way she treats me). I just wish she would treat herself with the same respect and love. I really think that if she had a makeover from a professional, she'd see just how pretty she really is and come out of her shell, but she doesn't' have any friends at the moment who could go with her and I'm currently working a plane ride away.
I'm worried that she'll take a beauty salon gift certificate the wrong way, and I feel like I'm being unfairly critical of her. But some of the things she constantly harps about are starting to be things I notice (like her eyebrows).
Maybe feeling like this means I'm a bad person, but she could be so gorgeous if she tried. I know its unfair of me to ask her to change, but I just see how much potential she has, and wish she knew.
What do you women think? I am just an awful boyfriend?