Does he like me? What does he want???

[tryingtoforget]

Good, boundaries, okay, I can do that.
I told him I want him to ask me to do something instead of just texting (yes texting is a new verb) me all the time.
I have thus far made all of the invitations and have been unable to get him to do anything resembling a "real date".
We took a walk, we went for ice cream...
I'm not a woman who demands fancy dinners or anything, but I don't want to feel like he doesn't want to go out with me either.
I think he should make some effort.

[Mish]

Make suggestions, see if he picks up on it.

"You want to see that movie? Yeh me too. Are you going to see it next week when it's out?"

"You haven't played tennis because you can't find a partner, I have the same problem. Noone wants to play tennis anymore. Though I'm pretty busy this weekend, ask me next week and I just might help you out".

"So you are free on Sunday. What would you like to do on a Sunday? Hmm, are you a mind reader? I was thinking about doing that too..."

[box_of_donuts]

it soulds to me this guy wants sex without a relationship...if you want to have a relationship with this guy and to see if he is serious about a relationship with you... than stop, stop, stop. play hard to get...stop returning text messages...stop calling or answering calls...don't avoid this guy entirely-be polite and nice when you do talk...but don't go out of your way. Become extremely busy(in a nice way).......if he really likes you ... it will bother him, the lack of attention...if he only wants sex...he wont care if you stop calling/answer/text messages/give him attention

we as humans naturally find more value in something that we want, when we have to work for it/or is something that is hard to have. hence, play hard to get

[Gigabitch]

I don't care how gorgeous he is, that jackass should be headed for the back burner. You can do better, and you should.

[tryingtoforget]

Well we did finally go to dinner, but I think you are all right... he wants the frosting without the cake.
I haven't been communicating with him much and he seems discouraged.
I just politely answer his texts... sometimes.
I'm trying to keep things "normal" since I have to seem him pretty frequently where he works.
Other than that, I think I'm done.
Thanks for the good input.

[Tashi]

Lol, you know, when i read that through the first time, i actually though you were 17 or something O.o

But a good test would be to ask if you could have a sleepover at his or your house, wherever you feel most comfortable. I did that with my girlfriend, and I was so freaked that i could feel my head spin when i was closer than a meter of her, which was rather hard, since my bed is a twinsize one, and we both were sleeping on it together.(...Was, and still is, pretty shy at times >.<) We didn't do anything though, and after that, she seemed to trust me a lot more. While i have no ideas about his intentions, you COULD try this. If it turns out he isn't even trying to touch you, are anything else, then that would mean he respect your rule of no sex too soon, which most likely means he is serious with you. I could be wrong, and it could turn into something real horrible, mainly rape, if something goes wrong, which is a pretty good reason why NOT to use this idea :/

[tryingtoforget]

ummmm...I think I'm cool on the sleepover.