Originally Posted by
frecklesinourIs
I feel like I need constant reassurance in this relationship to be happy...
It sounds like you need more intimacy in this relationship. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be more intimate. Perhaps, what you really need is a stability of a routine. Perhaps you can discusses some sort of a schedule where you communicate everynight at a certain time. That way you can always be "re-assured" that both of you are still on the same wavelength on regular bases and nothing drastic has happened in the period you two were not with each other. Though don't put it in those terms to him. Say something along the lines of "It's so nice to hear your voice in the evening dear, let's have a chat time on __ at __, this can be our private alone time - wink wink".
But becareful freckles of heading into a teritory of needing someone to be happy. The moment you start to sense that your happiness is in his hands is the moment you should start thinking long and hard about your own self esteem needs and independence. You should be able to be happy by yourself without needing anyone.
Last edited by Mish; 07-05-08 at 08:32 AM.
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