Originally Posted by
AmericanBastard
From experience.
I married when I was 20 to a woman who you might say "had issues." All the signs were there it was doomed to fail. Within the first two years all was well. Then she would disappear whenever I would go "places" for my job. I would find out when I returned she was spending time with other guys. I don't think I have to expand on what she was doing with her time. You get the picture I'm sure. We argued, she was abusive and emotional. I was miseable. I tried everything I could to make it work. I did the "Find God" thing, individual counselling, marriage counselling, group counselling, romantic getaways, submission...you name it. Bottom line, I wasted 8 years that I can never have back. Gone forever are what should have been the best years of my life.
I moved on. I realized it wasn't going to change. I realized we were just too different and had grown even further apart over the years. Dare I say it...yes I shall; Incompatable, unreconcilable differences. I divorced her. Giving her everything was the price I paid to move on to an symbalance of a normal life.
I then met BritishChic. Or as I prefer to say...I traded my ex in for a newer foriegn model. I married BritishChic. She is the greatest woman I have ever met in my life. I have never had anyone who supported me unconditionally. Believe me when I say, My log on truly reflects how I can be at times. I can also be very cold and machine like. It's because of years of doing what I do...and have done. My wife makes it all worth it. I never would have known this feeling of completeness if it weren't for her. We now have 2 children (3 months and a 1 y/o 1 month).
Bottom line. I admire your efforts. But I ran like hell and found someone who would add to my life. Things now a days are complicated enough with out adding the roller coaster ride of someone who does things like this. You will always remember what you had, and that is good. But you will always remember what happened to it too, and hopefully learn. However, given time, you will also get over her. And, that is even better.
IMHO
I am not giving advice. I am relaying to you what I experienced. You have to make your own decisions.