i need some enlightenment guys ...help me here !!!

[Gigabitch]

It sounds to me like he has an attention span of about four months. He just isn't interested.

Plus, he lets the dog sleep on the bed. That is just nasty.

[boobaa]

Maybe its porn addiction. It does happen to some men, they choose raw sex and just don't fel that emotional state anymore. They are so used to jerking off to porn, that real piece is just a hole to them. they don't watch porn out of desperation, lack of physical contact, but its just a habit. Test it, if you watch porn together and have sex, does he put more attention in to the screen or you or just your ass... if he is an addict, then I am sure there is a treatment.

Or, maybe he is kinky or something???


Oh, and I would let my dog sleep in bed also, if I had any, its not nasty, its called care and tolerance.

[firefly]

i dont look any different than i did when he first started dating me so i cant see that being a problem .

[Kiechi]

Take the hint, he isn't interested anymore.

[bluesummer]

Firefly, I don't know why you're sticking around. You love him sure, but sex is a really big part of a relationship....and you're not getting ANY?!? Communication is also another really huge part of a relationship, and as far as I can see, there isn't any going on in yours, and I'm not sure if it's lacking on just his behalf or the both of yours. Regardless, I see one of two things. Either he has some major problem that he is not sharing with you (this is where the communication part comes in), or he just isn't interested in you. Saying "I love you" shouldn't be enough on his end to keep you in this relationship.

Personally, if I were you, I'd be loooooong gone. It's not just the sex that's missing here, like I said. It's communication and respect also.

[firefly]

If that is the case why hasnt he left me when i have given him the chance to go ...told him he could go ...i dont get it . i have told him to find another girlfriend before if he wasnt happy with me and he said i love you and im not going anywhere ....tell me what the hint is ....is that telling me to stay or go or what...its not like im stupid and and not reading inbetween the lines.....he is sending conflicting messages my way that i cant figure out .

[bluesummer]

He is staying because it's comfortable and it's easy - for now. He'll change his tune when he finds someone else. Trust me. Then you'll offer to leave him and he'll say "Awesome, see ya." Don't put yourself in that situation, it hurts.

You sound like you're making a lot of excuses for him.

[tooxshort]

It sounds like too much of a hassle to pack up and leave ...

[Mish]

If that is the case why hasnt he left me when i have given him the chance to go ...told him he could go ...i dont get it . i have told him to find another girlfriend before if he wasnt happy with me and he said i love you and im not going anywhere ....tell me what the hint is ....is that telling me to stay or go or what...its not like im stupid and and not reading inbetween the lines.....he is sending conflicting messages my way that i cant figure out .

I don't understand this

You're not happy with him, that's why you're telling him to tell you if he wants to leave? What if you don't like coffee where you ussually buy it, do you tell them to tell you to stop selling it to you? "Here is my money, don't give me the coffee I'm not happy with it, please, here is my money, don't give it to me."

No, you just don't buy it from them anymore.

[Tone]

If you're gonna stay with him, be miserable.

You are not allowed to complain if you're not smart enough to realize this relationship is going no where.

You LIVE with your boyfriend and you guys have had sex twice in the last year?? I mean what the ****.

This relationship ends in only two ways (and it WILL end)

A) You wise up and leave him on your own terms.
B) He finds someone new and drops your ass.

Like someone said, the only reason he is with you is because it's convenient. Come on girl, be smart.

[firefly]

I just want to say thanks to you guys for the advice ...I was thinking what you all are telling me ...maybe I just didnt want to think I was crazy for thinking it ...and hearing it kinda helped me validate what i need to do ..which is leave the stupid ass behind me and move on ....
thanks again for the helpful advice

[Tone]

Just know it's for the best.

And please keep us updated.

[misombra]

this man is addicted to porn.

unfortunately unless he's willing to admit and try to fix it, this is not changing and one day you will exhaust yourself to the point of no return.

i'm really sorry this sounds aweful. i am assuming that he has given up doing a lot of other little things as well?...

wait a minute, you live with him and you've been with him a little over a year? how long did you know him before you moved in with him? and you're stuck till november? well, let this be a lesson to you. you're about to go another several months without sex and you'll probably be even more miserable than you are now. but there's light at the end of the tunnel. save your money and come then, it'll either have worked out or not. if not then get the hell out of there. next time, wait a little while.