Turn One night stand into a Relationship?

[Mish]

No good genes can make up for a bad attitude..

Mish.., from a guy's point of view.., a random knockout perfect 10 walks up to you and tells you.., "fcuk me".. what do you do?

Nothing

I'm in a relationship. I'm committed to another person. Even if Angelina Joile walks up to me right now and tells me she wants me to do her I'll tell her I'm flattered, but she'll have to find someone else for the job. I'm sure it won't be a hard task for her.

If I wasn't in a relationship it would depend on a few things. Is she this easy with everyone? Is she someone who can get me infected with something? Would be the first thoughts to pass through my head.

[Cain]

No good genes can make up for a bad attitude..

Mish.., from a guy's point of view.., a random knockout perfect 10 walks up to you and tells you.., "fcuk me".. what do you do?

She's a certified virgin.., she has living footage of her entire life all videotaped.., but she walks up to you.., with the belief and mentality that she has this sexual power over you that you simply can't resist.., that you simply can't help.., you can't control yourself.., and that this is all you are.., a sex hungry animal.., this is the level of respect she has for you.., how arousing..

I wouldn't do it for a couple reasons. First, I'm in a relationship that I won't jeopardize. Second, I'm the one that hates on easy men and women.

I am sex crazed... when in a relationship... and when I'm single, I still have two girlfriends... Left and Right.

[Mish]

Sure, she might not be able to get one or two of the attractive guys because he's take or has random nussies available on call, but she WILL leave. A guy, though he might be able to leave for sure with an equally attractive woman, won't be able to do it as easily. That's the point. It's not that they both can do it, it's that it's EASIER for the woman.

I agree with that. Perhaps easier in that sense, though don't forget there are social pressures and self esteem issues (am I slut if I do that?) that will most likely stop her from doing that . In real world what you describe is an unlikely situation. Both the guy and a girl would spend some time getting to know each other first, they're not going to jump each other's bones in the first 5 minutes (unless they're in the club, which is known to happen - by the way even in this environment I found easiness is pretty equal). And since there will be a "getting to know each other time delay" any way, the easiness of securing a deal becomes more equal for both parties. For a guy it can be as easy as knowing what are the right things to say to get the girl. Whereas for a girl it could even be harder to get the guy if he's showing his disinterest in her (for whatever reason - too bitchy, too immature, too snobby, too fat, too unattractive for his taste).

[Cain]

I definitely think it's wrong that it's accepted when a guy has 20 sexual partners by his 21st birthday and he'd be considered cool... but if a woman has 20 sexual partners before her 21st birthday, she's a slut.

Honestly, I view both as sluts. I don't think it's limited to just women.

[GrkScorp]

I definitely think it's wrong that it's accepted when a guy has 20 sexual partners by his 21st birthday and he'd be considered cool... but if a woman has 20 sexual partners before her 21st birthday, she's a slut.

He would be someone immature.., looking to validate his masculinity..

Was once an effective mating strategy.., that's why the immature impulse is still there.. but it's a strategy that is now outdated..

[Cain]

It's not about a mating strategy. It's about both genders wanting sex but females being called sluts for multiple partners more than men.

[Mish]

I definitely think it's wrong that it's accepted when a guy has 20 sexual partners by his 21st birthday and he'd be considered cool... but if a woman has 20 sexual partners before her 21st birthday, she's a slut.

Honestly, I view both as sluts. I don't think it's limited to just women.

It's true, I agree with you on that. There's something wrong with that traditional perspective. Though, it may have something to do with roles. Masculinity is traditionally viewed as symbol of virility, while feminine qualities as receptive. In such views the goals for both sexes are viewed as different. Masculine goals are to initiate, while feminine goals are to retain. It's possible that these views are part of traditional cultural bias on its way out. But there's also a chance there is an evolutionary truth to this view as well. It could be that these roles/goals/qualities are true by design.

[lesa]

Until you or mish have actually experienced being a female, I don't think you have one ounce of credibility about how easy or difficult it is for a woman to get sex.

Yes, it may be true that a woman may have a much easier time getting sex from men but it is highly improbable that every man from every ethnicitiy and nationality with different culture beliefs would want to sex any woman that approaches him and ask for it.

[Cain]

Yes, it may be true that a woman may have a much easier time getting sex from men but it is highly improbable that every man from every ethnicitiy and nationality with different culture beliefs would want to sex any woman that approaches him and ask for it.

I think that you, Grk, and mish are misunderstanding the point that me and Vash were trying to make. The point was that it's EASIER for women. It doesn't require much effort at all as opposed to men.

[lesa]

Why not make a poll?

Of girls who are currently in their 20's..

How hard is it for them to have sex with the men they find attractive..

Well to answer your question, It is easy (and I am sure it is for many other women as well) but I have never approach a man for sex. I see him...he sees me...I find him very attractive and smile and the rest is history. I didn't have sex with them but I am sure I could have and many times these handsome men approached me but I was in a relationship so I learned to not give any hints that I find him attractive but most likely when I do, he will approach me...This also happens when I walk unescorted to certain places. But I understand that it will be improbably for me to get sex with any and every man that I see in the world. However, I have never been declined (but I have never asked) except for my now boyfriend...but we both wanted to wait and had to control ourselves for our own values. I am not going to have sex with every man I can or want. It’s not that urgent.

[lesa]

I think that you, Grk, and mish are misunderstanding the point that me and Vash were trying to make. The point was that it's EASIER for women. It doesn't require much effort at all as opposed to men.

Sorry Cain I was answering the questions in the order that they were posted without looking ahead. It's an interesting subject but yeah, I agree with all point-of-views on this topic. Too me, it does seems like women have a much easier time than men...it least from my view.

[Mish]

I think that you, Grk, and mish are misunderstanding the point that me and Vash were trying to make. The point was that it's EASIER for women. It doesn't require much effort at all as opposed to men.

I don't think this statement is entirely correct. This is how I would word it if I were you to make it more accurate:

It's easier for some type of women to get a particular type of men, while it's easier for some type of men to get a particular type of women.

[Cain]

I don't care how you phrase it, ultimately, it will be easier for a woman. It isn't 50/50.

[shh!]

Yes, it may be true that a woman may have a much easier time getting sex from men but it is highly improbable that every man from every ethnicitiy and nationality with different culture beliefs would want to sex any woman that approaches him and ask for it.

I'm not sure what point you are trying to make. Obviously we are talking about western culture, but I am pretty sure men in other cultures like sex, too. (Of course, if you give it to them, you might be stoned to death afterwards.)

No matter, though. This has become a dumb argument. I don't know anyone who really believes that all things being equal, men can get sex just as easily as women. The disproportionate number of male virgins on this board alone would be evidence to the contrary.

[lesa]

Bullshit. All a girl has to do is say she wants to have sex. Obviously, if you are talking about an unattractive girl vs. a pretty boy, he will hold out for something else, but generally speaking, he will be on her like a fly on poop. He probably won't keep her, though... she's too easy.

I didn't read your entire post (never do - too long).

I'm not sure what point you are trying to make. Obviously we are talking about western culture, but I am pretty sure men in other cultures like sex, too. (Of course, if you give it to them, you might be stoned to death afterwards.)

No matter, though. This has become a dumb argument. I don't know anyone who really believes that all things being equal, men can get sex just as easily as women. The disproportionate number of male virgins on this board alone would be evidence to the contrary.

True.

Was the statement implied only to western culture? Maybe I can sleep with my lab co-workers...most would anyways I sure lol.

What happened to Vashti?