Adult Dating Sites

[bluesummer]

yea I thought about it one day and realised, wow, why on earth would a woman who is above a 7 or8 even think of using those sites... then it dawned on me, they dont lol..

its all fat chicks that say they arent fat and women with kids who say they dont have baggage... in other words, the crazies and sickos

Not true. My bf and I met on there, and I'm not fat or ugly or crazy, and I don't have any baggage.....and he's actually the most amazing guy I've ever met.

I guess a lot of people wouldn't expect me to end up there, but I just wasn't meeting any QUALITY people in my day to day life.

[Illusional]

There's no such thing as free sex.

well how good is free porn??

raverboy

[Tedel]

I think this thread is based on an spam.

[Lipp]

Well, I haven't gone to the meaningless sex sites. I've gone to dating sites. In every case where I've met one of the women, they have been exactly as their profile described and the picture, too. In that sense, it has been validating.

The bad thing about the sites is that you end up meeting people who are miles away from your home. It is good because you would not have met them otherwise. It is bad because the distance sometimes just ends up destroying any possibility of anything real developing.

But in terms of not touching them with a 10 foot pole (as someone mentioned)...I think that is a bit extreme. You judge each person seperately, do some basic listening and such and you have a pretty good idea of who you are dealing with. Meeting a local person carries just as much (if not more) risk.

I meant not touching dating sites with a ten-foot pole.

[Lipp]

As for meeting people on dating sites, sure, it might work if you're really busy or stuck in the same social circles, but in any other case I would greatly prefer to meet up with someone and actually get to know the person instead of "Hmm...Likes dancing, cars and fashion...Guess I'll go for her".

Though it's not on par with my dislike of people who "fall in love" online.

[bluesummer]

As for meeting people on dating sites, sure, it might work if you're really busy or stuck in the same social circles, but in any other case I would greatly prefer to meet up with someone and actually get to know the person instead of "Hmm...Likes dancing, cars and fashion...Guess I'll go for her".
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You know, after awhile, you see where dating sites have their advantages. It's not much different from meeting people out socially, because usually you trade only an email or two, then meet for coffee right away. Most people are pretty adamant about meeting up and not carrying out an 'online relationship'. There are advantages in the fact that:

1. You can meet people with similar interests, and you know they have similar interests because it's all written in their profile
2. You can determine a person's attitude almost immediatly by how they express themselves in writing. Are they funny? Full of themselves? Serious? I always axed people for bad spelling, because it's a pet peeve of mine.
3. There's more chances you'll find someone closely matched to you than by random dates and encounters in your social life.


I used to be embarrassed that I used online dating sites ( I think of them as 'online meeting sites'), but the outcome was so positive, I happily admit to it now. I know many happily married couples that met this way, and my divorced parents were so impressed with my success, it convinced THEM to try it! Now my Dad is dating a very nice lady.....whereas all he was meeting before (socially) was bar trash.

[Lipp]

You know, after awhile, you see where dating sites have their advantages. It's not much different from meeting people out socially, because usually you trade only an email or two, then meet for coffee right away. Most people are pretty adamant about meeting up and not carrying out an 'online relationship'. There are advantages in the fact that:

1. You can meet people with similar interests, and you know they have similar interests because it's all written in their profile
2. You can determine a person's attitude almost immediatly by how they express themselves in writing. Are they funny? Full of themselves? Serious? I always axed people for bad spelling, because it's a pet peeve of mine.
3. There's more chances you'll find someone closely matched to you than by random dates and encounters in your social life.


I used to be embarrassed that I used online dating sites ( I think of them as 'online meeting sites'), but the outcome was so positive, I happily admit to it now. I know many happily married couples that met this way, and my divorced parents were so impressed with my success, it convinced THEM to try it! Now my Dad is dating a very nice lady.....whereas all he was meeting before (socially) was bar trash.

Good points, I don't mind it if it's just a way to get in touch with generally like-minded people in real life rather than establishing distance contacts which you might not meet for months.

Always had a dislike for manipulated presentations though, since only good photos and a well thought-through text is not the same as meeting the person randomly in life. They will know exactly what you do and don't know about them already, and whether its actually true or not. And some people are different online than they are in person, so the sooner you meet in person the sooner you'll find out the truth.

[bluesummer]

^^^That's why the general rule is, if they won't meet after two or three emails, ditch them.