bored girlfriend. any advice on special activities?

[javagirl87]

i don't know if this is abnormal...but when i'm with the a guy i really like i never get bored with them. i always love just sitting around them doing nothing. i'm content even just sitting and studying in the same room with them.

i feel like if you really like someone then you really enjoy their company no matter WHAT you are doing...or is this just me?

[vashti]

It's just you.

[javagirl87]

lol thanks.

no but really i feel liek if you really really love/like someone you just want to be a part of their life...they make you feel complete just being NEAR them. i have had a guy that i felt so in touch with and so connected with that just laying next to him listning to music was the most amazing thing ever.

but then again i know everyone has different things they enjoy in life and having that unspoken connection with someone is mine. maybe find what things she really enjoys and try to do those more often?

[Lipp]

i don't know if this is abnormal...but when i'm with the a guy i really like i never get bored with them. i always love just sitting around them doing nothing. i'm content even just sitting and studying in the same room with them.

i feel like if you really like someone then you really enjoy their company no matter WHAT you are doing...or is this just me?

At least I can confirm that it's not just you. Used to sit around her and just rest or read a book, feeling surprisingly happy just to be near.

...

Then again, it doesn't work out too well if the other person doesn't share that feeling. Heh.

[Tashi]

Haven't been here for a while, been busy with exams lately.

I think I found the problem really. The problem being SCHOOL.

But I agree with you Lipp. I hate being without her, because I feel lonely. Even if I am not doing something with her, I still feel happy.

I have no way to figure out whether or not she feels the same way as I do. But it has still gotten better lately, thanks to pussycatdoll's advice actually xD so thanks to you

Since quite a bit of you seems to find it strange not having sex...

Vashti said it as well I believe... Sex ain't everything.

why is sex even important? The way I look at it, sex is to REPRODUCE, and you don't reproduce if you use any kinds of pills or condoms or whatever. Sure, my point on this may change after trying it, but right now I don't need it.

And to clear up another thing about me "buying" her company... I couldn't answer this very well last time, but during the last few months the amount of money she spend on me almost exceeded the amount of money I have used on her in total. So I am pretty confident she ain't staying because of my money.



sudalady: hmmm... crafts...? hey might try that out as well, the last good advice I got here helped, so maybe this will as well

PS: I haven't even told her I am on this forum, and I definatly don't talk with her about what is said in here, so I find it highly unlikely that she changed because she read/heard any of these things posted in this topic.

EDIT: Just to make it clear, I have NO intentions of leaving this girl. Not now, not in a year. Heck I barely even look at other girls. I fail to see what other girls can give me, which she cannot.

[iamashrimp]

Why is her period so irregular? If she can't do normal activities because of it then she should see a doctor. Birth control pills also help regulate the period, and some even stop PMS which may be something your gf is suffering from, so maybe she should try the pill..

[Mish]

why is sex even important? The way I look at it, sex is to REPRODUCE, and you don't reproduce if you use any kinds of pills or condoms or whatever. Sure, my point on this may change after trying it, but right now I don't need it.

Sex is about intimacy, expression of love physically that two people feel for each other. Personally I feel no intimate relationship is real without it, but that's just me. I believe you will change your views on the subject in the future. For now, perhaps you are too young for it anyway.

[Cain]

If you only have sex to reproduce, you better damn sure hope she holds those same values because otherwise it will NOT work. Sex is important in any serious, intimate relationship. It brings two people together, closer, on a whole new level.

[Only-virgins]

"we never do anything fun anymore..."

Anymore? Sounds like you never did anything fun period.

Have sex, drink some alcohol

Eh, I think in reverse order this makes more sense to me.

[Cain]

It's just you.

And I disagree... they weren't the only person. I don't get bored with my gf no matter what it is we're doing. She's the same way. I can have fun just sitting down with her... doing nothing.. just talking.

[rogger]

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[PussyCatDoll]

yeh we went to the zoo again, and we don't drink either, but we've been to 3 parties in the last 3 weeks.

you just gota know how to have fun, maybe your gf is boring.

EDIT: ooooh, i just read the above post by the OP.

since, we're virgins too, this quote "The way I look at it, sex is to REPRODUCE" makes no sense to me.

i may not have had sex, but i sure as hell want too, but its to fulfill my love for my bf.

i think it really is a connection, that you have to feel before you can judge - the love, not the sex.

yeh, i'm kind of waffling, hope someone gets me.

[Cain]

yeh we went to the zoo again, and we don't drink either, but we've been to 3 parties in the last 3 weeks.

you just gota know how to have fun, maybe your gf is boring.

EDIT: ooooh, i just read the above post by the OP.

since, we're virgins too, this quote "The way I look at it, sex is to REPRODUCE" makes no sense to me.

i may not have had sex, but i sure as hell want too, but its to fulfill my love for my bf.

i think it really is a connection, that you have to feel before you can judge - the love, not the sex.

yeh, i'm kind of waffling, hope someone gets me.

I understand completely. I view sex as a great way to get closer to your partner physically and emotionally. I view it as something intimate. It's definitely fun, so it isn't just for reproduction in my eyes, and if I could only have sex with my gf when it was time to make a baby, I don't know if I could make it.

[luvispower]

@Tashi
- IMO ppl who are addicted to MMORPG's usually spend most of their time playing it and wont feel like doing other things during free time, u should feel lucky ur gf will play it with u
- it's wise not to touch alcohol, who said that life must be insteresting with it
- you should think of sum topics to say when u do homeworks together,then she will not feel boring during those times
- i had an issue on sex with my gf too, and now i just hope that we can go on without it untill marriage. what i mean is, nothing more than hugs and kisses, and perhaps sumtimes a lil bit of naughty acts
- sumtimes go out together with ur friends. u both are in the same class so u shud have common friends. being with friends make more topics and u still can do things together.
- i dunno where u live but at where i live, movies and karaoke r the more popular activities. having lunch together, download series and watch them together, cooking together, or maybe sports.

(Please don't flame me bout the sex issue)

hope it helps.