does my guy friend like me more than a friend?

[confuzzled12]

i have been really good friends with this guy for a couple years now. i used to like him and he used to like me but then we just became good friends as time went on.

so anyways, today we were at a bonfire with a bunch of other people and he would tickle me ALOT. like very often. sometimes to the point where we wud fall on the ground. we sat together a lot. then on the car ride home we sorta cuddled (his arm around me and our heads layed on each other) and his hand was like gently carressing my shoulder. also, we were alone in the backseat and i sat on the right side and he sat right in the middle next to me and didnt move. then when i dropped him back off home, he kissed me on the cheek.

idk im not sure about the rules between guy and girl friends. is this normal? hes never really acted like this before with me.oh, we both have a really good female friend who he always pokes and jokes around with and stuff but shes bi-sexual and theyve never liked each other like that.

also, different people today were asking me privately whether or not we were seeing each other and that we acted like we were a couple.

[Lipp]

Hmm, it's really hard to tell. I think that either he's into you and is subtly showing it (which is probably what I'd do. I don't really like dating and the blatant "Hey, I'm interested in you in that way! Yes or no?") with actions that you described or I also believe that some of us also enjoy a sort of casual intimacy that you can only have with girls as friends, and while just being friends it's still playful and relaxing.

Say for example yesterday while riding in a car after an eventful day I got a wonderful neck massage by a girl who's a good friend of mine, and it doesn't mean that we're into each other but still something that a girl and a guy can enjoy doing as friends, and not something that you'd find in a guy and guy friendship.

So...Err..If you want to find out, perhaps you could respond by acting in the same manner, and if he's really into you he'll probably find the guts to kiss you, and, well...Then you know.

[Off2College]

he wants to get in your pants

[Mish]

he wants to get in your pants

Yup, most likely

[lastwish]

This isn't the normal behavior between friends. He likes you more than a friend and might even think you guys are dating. Thats the most likely case unless he's an overly flirtatious person.

[TAVS]

Ladder Theory: No man is friend to a woman whos pants he does not want to get into

[confuzzled12]

ok now im getting the vibe that he is kinda avoiding me. like hes not talking to me as much as he used to. and we normally talk everyday

[bigfella247]

maybe you gave him a response that said 'not interested' to him, even if you didn't mean to. Its doesn't take me very long to convince myself that I've failed with trying to attract a girl, then I get depressed and don't really try and have anything to do with them. It could just be me, but the way I see it, we guys are EASY defeatists.

[Lipp]

maybe you gave him a response that said 'not interested' to him, even if you didn't mean to. Its doesn't take me very long to convince myself that I've failed with trying to attract a girl, then I get depressed and don't really try and have anything to do with them. It could just be me, but the way I see it, we guys are EASY defeatists.

Could be true, though it varies.
I was into a girl a few weeks back but could only see her about once a week, and after she turned down several of my attempts to bring her along to events (as in tagging along to the beach, cinema visits and stuff with friends, not as in asking out on a date) and eventually tagged along with others after already rejecting my suggestion of it I called it quits and won't be doing aikido lessons next semester (which is where I meet her). Need the time for work, and she doesn't seem interested at all.

[Tigger]

Its rather hard to read his mind with the limited info I have on the situation. First of all be very careful. Stop and read this sentence twice: Be prepared to lose him forever as a friend if YOU take the next step. Do you understand. You can NEVER go back to being friends once you take the next step. One of two things may happen; either you die as a relationship OR you blossom into a beautiful thing.

One will devastate you for months the other will make you love life. JUST BE VERY CAREFUL!!! Dating friends is very, very dangerous. My best advise to give you is take very small steps from where you are.

What do I mean. Ok, I'll tell you. Dont get drunk and jump his bones. JUST DONT OK!!! Because he will NOT say no but you both will be even more confused and most likely ruined from there on.

I'm a guy who's dated many people; had a hundred...no a thousand broken harts and trust me, what you are doing is the riskiest of all things for your OWN heart. You say you guys talk every day right? So. if that stops because YOU messed up, then what happens? Thats right. You'll be jumping out of a building because now you have no one.

Take small steps. Ones that you can reverse. Talk about it. Let him tell you with his actions what he wants to do. At this time, sounds like he's avoiding you because he doesnt know whats going on in his mind. I do the same thing. He's just doing the math.

Now. If you really want to be cruel. Dont call him back. Do not be available to him. He'll get pissed. Yes trust me on this. But in anger, he will see clearly how he feels about you and it may push HIM to make the next step. Not you.

Then you hold all the cards. You can stay friends or take it further.

[Tedel]

mm... You know? Knowing how old are both of you might help a lot.

[charmie_18]

probably he likes you

[anachronistic]

He either likes you, wants to get into your pants, or he is that way with all his lady friends.


I'd say he likes you.

[DickYuen]

What about you? Do you like him? Ask yourself if your other guy friends also behave the same? It is quite hard to accurately judge by the readers after the few lines written by you because human being are complex. I personally think that he likes you. No matter how "good friend" between the two of you, there is always a boundary as friend.
I can tell that you like him. Prepare yourself what is next when you come to know that he likes you or he doesn't.