I think that her not being happy with herself ties into not giving 100%. I've already told her that we will never both always give 100%. I haven't always given 100%, so I don't know where she gets it. I do know that I will make it very clear that we can't keep going on breaks when there's a problem, but I'm not doing that until we manage to get back together because she's too fragile right now and I don't want to make things worse.