Originally Posted by
Cain
No, I wasn't talking about the proposal.
I'm trying to figure out whether or not it's a good idea to do what I wanted to do and not end this break until we've had a face to face.
She has no pressure right now. We're barely talking. Things are good. But, I still think we need a face to face before we end this break whether she wants to tomorrow or not.
If me wanting that causes her to want to break things off again, she obviously didn't care, right?
Do NOT propose to her. I completely disagree w/Lesa on that & agree w/your assessment Cain (sorry Lesa).
DO give her a month or two to remember to miss you. Don't be her doormat, even if that's not what she consciously intends. Quash the urge to have this discussion sooner than that. The time will give her AND YOU a chance you both need to process.
DO have the weekend visit sometime in Oct/Nov.
Sorry, really busy. Just my quick op & I wanted to check on you.
All will be well, Cain.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh