She wants to talk

[I'm not telling]

because it was after school and almost everyone had left and school was closed for Friday I sent an e-mail. Probably not the best thing to do but already done so I tend not to linger over doubts.

Anyway she responded with:

"'My Name'-
I want to talk to you in person on Monday, but I think I should say something now. I am sorry if I led you on, but I think we are better as friends. I know this took a lot of thought and courage and I appreciate it, but I just don't think I am the right person for you. I still want to talk about this with you on Monday before homeroom.

'Her Name'"

Obviously I will talk to her but what should I expect and what sort of stuff should I say. I'm not asking for specifics, just what I should be prepared for.

Thank You for your Time.

[I'm not telling]

Since I'm not sure where this post belongs I have put it in two places "Ask a Female for Advice" and this one.

Anyway here it is:

because it was after school and almost everyone had left and school was closed for Friday I sent an e-mail. Probably not the best thing to do but already done so I tend not to linger over doubts.

Anyway she responded with:

"'My Name'-
I want to talk to you in person on Monday, but I think I should say something now. I am sorry if I led you on, but I think we are better as friends. I know this took a lot of thought and courage and I appreciate it, but I just don't think I am the right person for you. I still want to talk about this with you on Monday before homeroom.

'Her Name'"

Obviously I will talk to her but what should I expect and what sort of stuff should I say. I'm not asking for specifics, just what I should be prepared for.

Thank You for your Time.

[Cain]

She's going to say the same thing on Monday, but she'll go into more detail on what a good guy you are but that it just wouldn't work out.

[XPRabbit]

by the sounds of it and i don't have experience to back this up, i think she just wants to get more in depth with her feeling on you two dating. i mean she wants to talk so you didn't push her away. i would just expect her to give more reason or to make sure that you understand her fully in her decision. that's my guess

[I'm not telling]

Alright, so what should I do. Should I stick with how I feel or should I just let it go? Also, is it set in stone?

[Cain]

Alright, so what should I do. Should I stick with how I feel or should I just let it go? Also, is it set in stone?

If you're asking whether you should keep pursuing her, then no. She feels the way she does because there's no attraction... no desire. Don't anticipate that to change. But if you can't get rid of your feelings, being her friend won't work.

[XPRabbit]

i am a firm believer that nothing is set in stone, I mean I still love two of the girls that rejected me, ^.^ It comes down to if your fine knowing that they might not come around. but if you two can still be friends then i say take it and adjust your emotions to a position that you can be comfortable with. it really comes down to what you can handle, do what you need to be happy.

[I'm not telling]

Ok and Thank You.

[I'm not telling]

Though I suppose its possible that she isn't entirely sure, I guess. But of course I will support any decision she makes (how do you spell decision?).

[XPRabbit]

decision is right

[XPRabbit]

And that would be the best way to go about it, just keep an open mind and you'll be fine.

[Cain]

Though I suppose its possible that she isn't entirely sure, I guess. But of course I will support any decision she makes (how do you spell decision?).

Just don't expect her to change her mind when she tells you in person.

[I'm not telling]

By open mind you mean what? I'm a little oblivious to my own meaning.

And I never expect anything. I expect that something unexpected will happen and so I don't bother expecting anything since it won't be right.

[Cain]

By open mind you mean what? I'm a little oblivious to my own meaning.

And I never expect anything. I expect that something unexpected will happen and so I don't bother expecting anything since it won't be right.

You need to go into this talk with her on Monday expecting that she's going to tell you the same thing she told you on the phone, just in more detail. If she does, you won't be disappointed because you expected it. If she doesn't, you'll be happy because it was unexpected. Don't go in expecting the unexpected though because that means you think she might change her mind.

[I'm not telling]

No you missunderstand two things. It was an e-mail not phone call (which probably doesn't matter). And I don't expect anything. I want and see then act upon the situation.

But what do you mean open mind?