She wants to talk

[I'm not telling]

Why is it that guys are the ones talking in the ask a female topic? lol

[I'm not telling]

I don't know if its a good or bad thing but I'm kinda picky with who I take any interest in at all. And I think it through alot too before I even decide if I like someone.

Personality>Intelligence>looks

[XPRabbit]

Okay.

I surrender.

In a year, she'll probably be all over you.

Don't compare attraction between women and men. Emotional attraction is more instantaneous for women, and if she's put you in the friend zone now, you're most like never getting out.

Maybe a woman can come in here and chime in.

... wow see i asked a question in another forum, is it hard to become a boyfriend when you already made it to bestfriend and left yourself in the friend category...
"is it hard" i know plenty of couples that never would have dated before they did...

Don't expect her to get feeling for you but the possibility is always there.

and this is the love advice forum ^.^,

[XPRabbit]

Personality>Intelligence>looks ^.^ great system it's how i tend to think... but i believe everyone is picky, it's just in what form... i found i can be rather picky when it comes to "who i wanna date" lol I'm just not that picky at who I'm friends with.

[I'm not telling]

I've never actually dated anyone. But she said she would meet me at Tropical Smoothie (who hasn't heard of that?) after her soccer season is over (practice everyday and games out of town ever weekend, their coach needs to rethink his/her life). So does that mean that she still wants to basically go out with me? My head hurts.

[XPRabbit]

I couldn't honestly answer that... i mean for sure you still have a friend it sounds like but anything more i don't know. *taps out* i have been defeated.

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I think I just hurt myself. Defeating the advice of people trying to help me probably isn't a good thing

[XPRabbit]

^.^ well i see where some advice can be frustrating, the thing about advice is it's a 3 step process, 1) the question or issue, 2)the presentation of advice, 3)the decision to take the advice given.

but I can only give so much advice, lol if i can't be honest or passionate about what i say then i don't say it ^.^ even if i sound like an idiot.

[I'm not telling]

True, though if someone else wants to put their two cents in on the Tropical Smoothie thing, that'd be nice. I know your reading this it says so on the forum. All 8 of you!

[Cain]

The friend zone IS impossible to get out of. If a woman is friends with a guy and they eventually get into a relationship, the guy was never in the friend zone. All the friend zone is is a place a woman puts a guy when she has said he won't be anything more than a friend.

We gave you this advice so that you could stop worrying about it. You are still, regardless of what you think, hoping she'll change her mind and all that will do is hurt you. If she starts dating someone else, it's going to bother you.. and she told you that you were just friends.

Stop reading into these things.

[Cain]

Her wanting to meet you somewhere means nothing. If she liked you, she would have told you that she liked you but didn't want to be in a relationship right now. She didn't. She said that she didn't see you that way.

[I'm not telling]

Obviously she won't change her mind just that she might look at me from a different perspective. You have to realise, at school I tend to be withdrawn and a little antisocial. That I would reach out to her is a big deal. And your awfully cynical.

[Cain]

Obviously she won't change her mind just that she might look at me from a different perspective. You have to realise, at school I tend to be withdrawn and a little antisocial. That I would reach out to her is a big deal. And your awfully cynical.

I'm not cynical, I'm a realist.

You just seem to think that she's going to change her mind. That's all I'm saying. Women act on different emotions and thought processes than men do. When a woman wants a guy to be her friend, a lot of the time he stays there. Women know when they are attracted to someone by desire. It doesn't have to manifest over the course of a year. And if you're withdrawn and antisocial, that's a very unattractive thing for a woman unless she's the same way.

[XPRabbit]

lol we need to get a female in here *that is all*

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All of my friends at school except two are females. Not girlfriend but friends that are girls. Believe me, I know alot about how they think (one scary place).