what do i do now?

[leeannx]

i found my partner of ten years using porn. It upset me but i can understand its a man thing. Our relationship is on the rocks he's quick tempered and always moans at me. We discussed our problems and he agreed to try and chill out and stop moaning and i agreed to make more effort in our sex life. One week later i've made max effort sex every day i've done everything he's asked for all day kissing cuddling touching, he's always so horny. And he just hasn't bothered, don't get me wrong he's been bit better but thats cos he's getting everything he wants. For me its too much i can't breath for him. After ten years (and 2 beautiful boys) i feel were too different and don't know what else to do. We love eachother alot but just can't agree on anything. Am i a prude? When i say he is constantly at me i mean always.

[miSSleepy]

i found my partner of ten years using porn.

Using it how? Is this the real problem? What is the problem you have with porn?

It upset me but i can understand its a man thing. Our relationship is on the rocks he's quick tempered and always moans at me. We discussed our problems and he agreed to try and chill out and stop moaning and i agreed to make more effort in our sex life. One week later i've made max effort sex every day i've done everything he's asked for all day kissing cuddling touching, he's always so horny. And he just hasn't bothered, don't get me wrong he's been bit better but thats cos he's getting everything he wants. For me its too much i can't breath for him. After ten years (and 2 beautiful boys) i feel were too different and don't know what else to do. We love eachother alot but just can't agree on anything. Am i a prude? When i say he is constantly at me i mean always.

I don't believe that he is constantly or always at you.
What's wrong with a kiss and a cuddle, or a grope, a hug, a touch, throughout the day? How many times a day does he want sex? How many times have you been asking for?
You'll have to describe your situation a bit better, because so far no one can tell whether he's too smothering or if you're too prudish. Give us facts.

[ecojeanne]

some men do have serious problems always 'wanting it' its a known fact...dont let the porn thing affect u....surely its a relief that he finds ways to release? i dont know if he has a medical/mental problem...but maybe u shld get it checked out.....if u feel that u might be a prude why dont u watch porn with him...its actually kinda fun with a partner u luv

[kene]

Yeah, the porn thing means nothing.

[misombra]

you have three little boys to take care of.

[starbuck]

Have you tried counseling? It seems like you have some issues with him that go beyond his watching porn.

[Dasein]

Our relationship is on the rocks he's quick tempered and always moans at me.

Ok this is the key statement here. Like everyone else I would like a better description of the situation. However it seems like there are other things at play which may effect the amount of porn he "uses" or his other demands.