Asking someone to be GF/BF

**rateyes** · 02-09-08, 06:26 AM

do you just ask them if they want to be your GF or BF? Like, "Sue, would you liek to be my GF?", or is just suppose to be understood that you guys are going out?

ive never asked a girl out, but have talked/been with girls and stuff at parties, never a dating kind of guy.

**Cain** · 02-09-08, 06:30 AM

Are you in high school? When you get out of high school, you don't really ask that. After you've been on several dates, talking about where things are going to go from there might happen... but that question never really comes out.

My response would be, "out where?"

**starbuck** · 02-09-08, 06:31 AM

Ask her if she wants to be exclusively with you?

**lesa** · 02-09-08, 06:36 AM

I've had it both ways I suppose.

The first bf stated what he wanted in a relationship when we first meet, after our first or so dates. Then we continued to date and assumed the bf/gf relationship after that talk...as long as the relationship progressed we assume what we were. Our topics and living arrangements and our life proved it was a serious relationship and we acted and gave that appearance to others.

With the new bf, it's completely different. I kind of like it better. He communicates well too but we dated and then he ask but this is how he asked: "Would you be my girlfriend?" I loved it and it leaves no doubts in the mind (about that lol). I am not a man but I think it's cooler to ask in a similar way rather than, "Sue, would you like to be my GF?" Girls like just a little bit of confidence in the asking (I guess).

Ask after a few dates is ideal

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**RelationshipBud** · 02-09-08, 09:11 AM

Usually it comes down to one of you asking after a couple dates "do you want to be exclusive (go steady, etc)?"

When you hear the word "yes" pop out of their mouth, then you got yourself a bf/gf!

Good Luck,
Relationship-Buddy

**michzel creativ** · 02-09-08, 01:42 PM

oh...you should try one, its nice to have somebody that cares and loves you most. Its part of our teenage life.
I don't prefer to ask somebody to be my bf because he might don't love me at all.

**lesa** · 02-09-08, 01:49 PM

Originally Posted by michzel creativ

oh...you should try one, its nice to have somebody that cares and loves you most. Its part of our teenage life.
I don't prefer to ask somebody to be my bf because he might don't love me at all.

**scratches head** pardon me?

**michzel creativ** · 02-09-08, 01:58 PM

hi lesa! what's wrong....

**lesa** · 02-09-08, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by michzel creativ

hi lesa! what's wrong....

I don't know. I don't understand the post.

Originally Posted by michzel creativ

oh...you should try one, its nice to have somebody that cares and loves you most. Its part of our teenage life.
I don't prefer to ask somebody to be my bf because he might don't love me at all.

The OP should try one because it's a part of our teenage life?

You do not prefer to ask somebody to be your bf b/c he might not love you at all? Why would you ask someone to be your bf? If you are dating then you can allow the man to ask you whether you like to move to the next level.

I think I understand but I am making many assumptions so I am not sure.

**michzel creativ** · 02-09-08, 02:49 PM

If they have been dating for a long time its ok to ask "can you be my gf/bf". What I mean is.... I don't prefer to ask somebody to be my bf/gf if we just meet for a quite time its embarrassing.

**1averagejoe** · 02-09-08, 03:02 PM

Originally Posted by lesa

**scratches head** pardon me?

We should have the admins edit his posts to say "blah blah blah." Because most of his posts make less sense than that.

**michzel creativ** · 02-09-08, 03:20 PM

Originally Posted by 1averagejoe

We should have the admins edit his posts to say "blah blah blah." Because most of his posts make less sense than that.

are you referring to me?

**rateyes** · 03-09-08, 08:32 AM

yes im in HS.

and i ask becuase i was talkin to a girl and we started hangin out and tlakin everyday, hugged everyday, tickle fights, held hands sometimes, and all that. went on for like 3-4 weeks

i kinda assumed we were pretty much about to go out, but come to find out she didnt really like me, she was jsut a big flirt.(i thought she did, she would always say ill miss you and cant wait to see yo uagain)

so i was thinking assuming wasnt the right way to go, but you could if you do both like each other.

**michzel creativ** · 03-09-08, 08:51 AM

Oh that's great...I think she likes you,
Ask her for a date and tel her what you feel.

**Cain** · 03-09-08, 08:55 AM

Originally Posted by michzel creativ

Oh that's great...I think she likes you,
Ask her for a date and tel her what you feel.

Do you even read these posts that you respond to? He said he found out that she didn't like him.

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