Hi everyone.
I have this situation at work. I have a co-worker in my department that I'll call Clara. We have known each at work for about 2 years. For the past few months, we have gotten pretty close. She even invited me out to our company picnic with her brothers and sisters (mostly out-of-towners in for the weekend). We do extra things for each other at work, comfort each other in times of hardship, talk about things she doesn't talk to anyone else about, etc.
At this company picnic, we had our picture taken together. One of the other co-workers thought we were dating and told Clara this. Clara made a special point to tell me this story (I wasn't there when the co-worker said this). Sounds like dropping hints, doesn't it?
I wanted to take things to the next level, so I sent her an e-mail asking that I wanted to talk to her in private. She e-mails back that she is busy and that's OK, there's always tomorrow. Well the next day she calls in sick.
So forward to next week and she doesn't even bring up the subject. So the next day I e-mail her again. I then approach her later on that same day asking if she'll be around at all and she makes up some lame excuses about how she isn't going to be there. I wait until the next day and she flies out of office, not even saying goodbye to me as is her usual custom.
The next day I'm really pissed and totally ignore her. She planned this company lunch for everyone that day and I told her I wasn't coming. She then saves a plate for me from this lunch and has other people tell me "Clara saved you a plate". She keeps shoving this plate of food at me, as if she's really doing something special for me. What are these, mind games now?
I'm so ticked that this so called "friend" of mine cannot take 5 minutes out of her day to talk to me. She doesn't even know what my question is, nor does she care to find out. Am I wrong for being ticked? Let's assume that she knows I want to ask her out and she doesn't want to date me. Won't the mature thing to do would be to at least hear me out and let me down gently? I could accept that, really, I could! We could continue being friends, but alas, I feel that I'm being used.
Thanks for letting me vent.
SuperTech