I got dumped

[Charlie Boy II]

Yeah she called me today. She said she's finding it hard. She asked me if I was regretting the breakup and I said no (depsite the thread title it was fairly mutual). It was hard, but no. I asked her the same thing and she gave the same answer. Then I said I didn't think we should talk for a couple of weeks just to give ourselves a chance to get over it. Contact definitely makes it harder. So does thinking about whether it was the right/wrong thing to do.

[misombra]

you guys are punishing yourselves and each other. i would like to see things work out with you two.

[misombra]

...also this page takes a million years to load cause of gskorps crazy pics.

[shh!]

It sounds like she is stubborn, and was hoping you'd tell her you wanted her back.

[misombra]

yeah, sounds like they're both stubborn.

[Charlie Boy II]

It's not stubborness, it's practicality. My behaviour and my personality was making Kristin miserable. Most likely it would continue to do so. Ergo, we are not a good match. That doesn't mean we don't care for one another, but it doesn mean we'd be better off moving on and finding alternative partners. The best way to do this is to have minimal contact over the coming weeks/months.

[lesa]

Whatever his or her ideal relationship is, getting back together is not going to solve it for the near future. They would just be carrying on and still not satisfied. Maybe they will have the same goals later in life and if they are availabe they can go from there.

[blackzj52]

dude everybody in a long term relationship is getting dumped right now..
me, cain, you. and a buncha people i know around here

[Charlie Boy II]

Also Nisha (though she did the dumping). Some of my mates are in some really stale relationships. I hope they're single again soon.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Yea I did the dumping (muahahahahaaaa)....but now he is calling me again and having casual convo's with me...its what he does all the time to get back with me....not gonna work this time though....I've been a fool way too long....but this thread isnt about me so I'll end it here....good luck with whatever final decision you make CB, I hope you dont regret it. If letting her go makes her feel better, you did the right thing.

[Mish]

My behaviour and my personality was making Kristin miserable. Most likely it would continue to do so. Ergo, we are not a good match.

My personal opinion. I don't think it's either your behaviour or personality in general. I think that it's posible your approach wasn't serious or permanent enough for her.

From my personal experience I've noticed that girls like to play house. When they do that they play out roles to see what it would be like in the future for the both, but for that they need a feeling of permanency. If that feeling of permanency is for any reason not clear, relationship satisfaction for some of them tends to go south.

Though, this is just my opinion, I'm sure there're other explanations.