Says She Loves Me But Dates Others?

[gigantor]

The woman I love and have been intimate with for about a year says she loves me. She also is attracted to and texts and talks to other guys all the time. She says she loves me more though. She gets very angry if I even talk to another woman (and makes me promise I won't - and I haven't). She says that if I moved in with her, she wouldn't need other guys. I said if she didn't love me enough to be faithful now, how could I even think about moving in and changing my whole life around? She's kissed other guys and done other things I won't mention here, although she has not gone all the way with them.

Any advice?

[Illusional]

are you freaking kidding me?? and yourself??

can i cal you a fool??

raverboy

[GrkScorp]

Sounds like this is her idea of bargaining..

Consider the possibility that she might be doing all this with other guys.., and even making a lot of it up.., to get you to do something (like move in with her or make promises to her so she can feel like she's got you to commit to her in some way)

You need to call her on her sh*t.., and then after you do that.., you need to explain to her that you want to work this out as civilized people.., not like some ghetto animals.. You don't want to be with someone who is dishonest and plays games.., you want this relationship to work.., but under honest terms.., not her terms..

She has to admit how wrong her behavior is.., to herself.., before you can think of moving in together.., and she has to stop doing things with other guys.., and stop making up stories of what she supposedly does with other guys just to bother you.. If she wants real commitment.., then it's not going to be through promises.. (because you know what they say about a promise.., it's not worth the paper it's written on).., it's going to be through honesty.. When she's ready to be honest.., you'll be ready to move in with her and make this relationship work..

Before that time.., she can keep doing whatever she wants to do with whatever guys she wants to do it with.., and you can do the same but not tell her about it..

[Illusional]

would you give me 5 bucks if i sold you $3??

raverboy

[CompletePimp]

Leave here!! WTF ARE YOU DOING MAN! Grow a pair of balls and leave here right now! She is scum! To be such a hypocrite to tell you that you cannot even speak to another woman while she goes out frolicking with other men means she is scum. DUMP HER. THIS IS UNHEALTHY FOR YOU and it will only destroy you emotionally, if it hasnt already.

[Marshall]

It sounds like she's just controlling you and taking advantage. Move on mate, you can find much much better i promise you, she's not worth your time if she's doing that to you. plenty of other people would respect you and stay faithful so dont waste your time.

[Zilla80]

Take yourself out of the situation for a moment, read your original post, and tell us what you think.

[blondeee]

She's taking advantage of you. You must be blinded by love because she's totally messing around with you. It's not worth it, you should leave her. You can find someone who will want to be with YOU, and only you, and won't "need other guys".

[Mish]

Says She Loves Me But Dates Others

That means she doesn't really love you.

That's how I would approach her if I were you.