Please help! :(

[Cybercat]

Hello guys and girls,

Before I get to the topic, I'm really sorry if I'm posting this in the wrong section. If I am, please move my post over to the right place. Thank you!

Anyways, let's get to the real topic/my problem. Okay, so I've been with my girlfriend for about an year and a half right now and she is my first girlfriend and I really love her. But you see, for the past 2-3 months we just been having problems after problems. There was at one point where she told my friend that she was losing feelings for me then after few weeks things went alright between us and we went back on the track of continuing the relationship. But for some weird reason our problems and arguments never stop. For one day let's say we are alright the next day we will have fight and such.

There's this other thing, she is a type of girl that can lose feelings real fast. Like example if she doesn't see me for like a week she gets all cranky and tells me things like "Oh, I feel weird.. or I'm starting to forget how you look like etc." ... As you all know the season changed and I caught a big fever and I was sick for over 2 weeks now and haven't really seen her and she's really tripping over that and you all guessed what was she telling me. So it comes to the point where it's really hard to continue this relationship with her. Also the fact that I'm graduating from college and I'll be getting a good job in computer programming and I don't know how to manage time to see her. Also she doesn't like what I do (computer graphic design/programming) like she thinks that it's not going to help in our relationship... she doesn't want to think about my life.

But yeah, I don't want to make you guys read much on my first topic here so I'll get to my question where I need some advice with. Lately after a lot of thinking it comes to the point where I want to separate from her ( I know it's going to be heart-breaking for me and her.. but specially for me cuz she's my first love ) but I have to do this for the best of both of us.

Thing is, I don't know how to tell her about how I feel, I don't know how to break things off... I don't want to suffer anymore. Someone please help me with my problem...

Thanks in advance..

[LeiA1]

I'm sorry to hear your relationship isn't working. First of all, you are young. You shouldn't waste your time with someone trying to make it work when it just doesn't. You are at the age where you need to start thinking about the rest of your life, not just the present. Second of all, your gf should be supportive of everything you do. (esp if it makes you happy) If I treated my bf like that, he would def leave me. You should just tell her exactly the way you feel. I know it sounds corny but write a letter if it helps. You need to be honest with her. It will be better for the both of you in the long run. Good Luck!

[Cybercat]

Thank you for the reply, LeiA1. I was also thinking of writing a letter to her on how I feel and yes I am still young just like you said and have many things to see in the life.
Now even though if I write the letter, is it better if I let her read it in front of me so we can talk about it after or should I give it to her and let her get back to me on what she thinks?