So I'm still not over my ex....

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

And it is tearing me apart. It's only been a little over a month since we broke up, and I feel so sad and sick. I get the feeling he has already gotten over me, but not on his own. He sent hints of finding someone new, and it made me sick to my stomach. I think it was his plan, so I never told him anything about it. The only way I know I'd get over him is if I dated someone new, but I'm not ready to date anyone right now. I dont miss our relationship, cuz it was ultra unhealthy. I feel relieved that it's over, actually. But I still love him a whole lot. I dont want to. I actually wish I could forget him completely as if he never existed in my life. That may sound cruel, but it hurts just thinking about him. I dont even want to think about him, but since we were together for a year and change, there's so much we been through that I get reminded of him somewhat everyday. St. Thomas is super boring, so going out is a waste of time. I did go out yesterday( to the mall with the guy who I mentioned in a previous post that he told me he was a player from the jump), and we were there with my daughter. We have nothing going on between us, but everyone wants to believe something is which pisses me off. So he was holding her while I pushed the stroller, and some assholes yelled out "Stop taking care of what aint yours". I was dying to flip them the ****ing bird cuz it pissed me the **** off, but I just ignored them.


Today I called my ex to go to the beach, but I got the feeling he didnt want to speak to me so I just said forget it. I feel sick right now, and I just want to get the hell over him. Do you guys have any suggestions or experiences on how you got over your exes? I need to get over him cuz I dont want to turn back ever again.

[krondragon]

I read somewhere that anger and love go hand and hand. This seems to be the case for you. The key here then is to be indifferent about the situation, more like you don't care rather than being angry and hating him about it because that still shows that you care about the whole situation.

As for advice, write down a list of what was bad about your ex and post it on the wall of your room. You probably experience your ups and downs getting over him, so when you feel good, write the list. When you begin to feel down, go and read your long list of bad characteristics and you will be suprised that you even put any thought into him. This was what worked for me.

[ecojeanne]

just pretend it never happened haha, i did the same thing a few days ago, i contacted my ex when i was drunk and only my best friend was on msn...she saved me from laying into him, i'm still hating him and wanting him to suffer haha. we all do these things, don't let it get to you. just focus on the bad shit he did and you'll be fine....thats probably the worst advice...anyway thats how i'm handling it

i'm going out with friends for the first time in months tonight and my plan is to enjoy and show myself off (got really dressed up...which i never normally bother with) and to make myself feel good. friends are great supporters. hang out with friends

[Dasein]

The list suggestion is good. It is a method I have used. It makes it harder to romanticise them.

I hate to say it but time..time is what is going to help. Diversion is also another way. Making sure you are busy and for those moments that you feel sad giving yourself the allowance to feel it.

[Love Portion #9]

Its good to surround yourself with loving friends and family. Have you watch Sex and the City..the movie? Her friends were the coolest! But unfortunately life is not a movie and we have to undergo this pain of wanting and needing...feel me? It is going to take time and please don't go out and seek a rebound with another man. I tried that and it just don't work. Everytime I would have sex with my rebound, I would just think about the man I was in love with and wishing that it was him in bed with me instead of this loser. TKO!