Originally Posted by
GrkScorp
I have exactly the tool you're looking for.., if you're willing to push past some boundaries..
If you have some free time.., sit down and watch:
[url]http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0110322/[/url]
Throughout the movie.., I want you to get into the mindset of.., if not a woman.., at the very least.., a homosexual male..
That's right.., hear me out for a second.. I want you to watch the movie this way.. Picking up on every little detail and subtlety in the film..
Watch the two brothers torn apart.. Pay close attention to the brother who loved her.., but whom she didn't love.. Notice the complete absence of attraction.. Try and notice how he's missing any kind of sex appeal or power.. Then look at Brad Pitt.. I'm not talking about the way he looks.., although.., if you're truly in a female or homosexual mindset.., then you have to agree.., he's gorgeous.. But notice his strong character.., his endless depth and mystery.., his masculinity and that raw dominant sexual power.. It's very important that you rewind as many times as you need to.., until you start to fully appreciate that quality.. As you start to learn to become aware of and appreciate that quality.., you'll notice how much easier it is to understand exactly what it feels like when someone is "masculine" and has that raw dominant strong sexual power..
You should walk away from that film feeling as if you want to wrestle and stab a bear in the fcukn' face..
Also important to be aware of and notice.., is the interaction between the female supporting actress and Brad Pitt.. Notice how she tries to get him emotional.., how she tries to connect.., but there's nobody home.. When she doesn't find the emotion she's looking for.., she's only left with "hope"..
It's quite honestly.., the perfect movie to demonstrate the two qualities.., strong and sensitive.., that are an important part of you..
Up until now.., you've been spending most of your time and energy into focusing on how to be a great guy.., how to be a great boyfriend.., a great husband.., a great man.., caring.., sensitive.., considerate.., loving.. Which is all good.. It really really is.., and you don't have to delete all those things or toss any of them away.. The only thing you have to realize.., especially after watching that film.., is that while you've most certainly cultivated the sensitive aspect to your character.., you've completely ignored the "strong" aspect to your character.. You haven't invested enough time and energy to focus on understanding your own sexuality.., your dominant presence.., your strong composure.., your masculine sexual power.. You are without a doubt well-developed in the sensitivity department.., but you must admit that it's time to start cultivating your inner personal strength and start being aware of your masculine sexuality now..
The moral of the film is.., don't fcukn' take on a grizzly bear with just a knife.., it will own you..
But beyond that.., the most valuable thing to take away from it.., is how to be both brothers.. How to find the right balance for yourself.., and combine both qualities into the same character..
Think of it this way.., how many girls have you met that are cute.., gorgeous even.., smart.., fun.., amazing people.., really nice.., sweet and genuine.., just full of life.., but they're not at all sexy.. In fact.., how many girl have you seen.., that you can say are really sexy or know how to be sexy? Considering the wealth of information that's available to women in developing their sexuality.., it's actually quite sad that ALL women aren't sexy.. But you know what sexy looks like in a woman.. You know how you feel when you see that quality in a woman.. You know how she makes you feel inside.. Paralyzed.., at awe.., intoxicated.., hypnotized.., thought stops.., all that's left is a keen sense of awareness and appreciation for her sexuality..
Well.., think about that for a second.. Remember.., boys and girls are the same animal.. We're all people.. Some are white.., some are black.., some are male.., some are female.., but all people.., with similar thoughts and feelings.. You just happened to be male.., but if you were female.., and strait.., you know what that masculine sexual power looks like when you see it.. You know how it makes you feel inside.. You're quite aware of exactly how paralyzed you are.., not able to move or think.., dirty thoughts race through your mind.., hard to control yourself.., from him.., hard to not appreciate him.., forcing you to flirt between self-control and temptation.., your only wish.., that he'd want to push you through that fine line.., let go of all control.., and just surrender completely to his power.. Not to his box of chocolates.., flowers.., or profession of his undying love for her..