my boyfriend of a month or so is leaving for college within a week. we have been extremely intimate and have done just about everything except have sex. i am seventeen years old and a virgin. i know that it is ultimately my decision and is one that only i can make, but i really would enjoy any other thoughts on the subject. i do really like him, but distance does a lot to a relationship. would having sex with him basically throw away my virginity. any opinions welcome.
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03-08-04, 07:14 AM #1
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what should i do?
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03-08-04, 07:20 AM #2
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if i were you, i would wait. just because he is leaving for college isn't really a good enough reason to have sex for the first time. raverboy
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03-08-04, 07:27 AM #3
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Well the question is... Is he the guy you want to give it up to? cause once its gone its not coming back. lol
Is he a virgin too? Cause having sex with a guy then sending him off to college (with all those other girls) dosen't seem like the best idea... but thats just me talkin"Its all just your state of mind, doubt is the real killer!"
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03-08-04, 08:06 AM #4
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haha i remember after i had sex with my first gf... damn, sex was so much better with the next person. scary ah? raverboy
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03-08-04, 08:14 AM #5
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LMFAO ok... I think we're stressing this poor girl out now...
Originally Posted by Illusional
"Its all just your state of mind, doubt is the real killer!"
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03-08-04, 10:39 AM #6
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Wait! Wait! Wait! Originally Posted by justwaiting
I think you've already done more than is wise for a 1-month relationship.
Having sex will NOT lock him into a relationship with you. As already pointed out, it may do just the opposite.
". . . throw away my virginity . . . " is an interesting way to put it - but probably accurate. Unless you're convinced that sex is not much more than some sport you do for the fun of a moment, I would wait.
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03-08-04, 09:56 PM #7
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i agree with daletom -- especially since you guys have only been dating for a month!
save it, and see if the relationship remains strong enough, then make your decision on the matter.Cinderella said to Snow White
"How does love get so off course
All I wanted was a white knight
With a good heart, soft touch, fast horse
Ride me off into the sunset
[URL=http://dizzygirl.net]Baby I'm forever yours[/URL]"
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03-08-04, 11:29 PM #8
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i too agree with daletom. one month is not a very long time. you still have no idea if its right expecially at your age. i know this b/c i too am young (just turned 18 not to long ago). wait until you know you and him are ready for it and make it special. you will want to remember it the rest of your life. you dont want to think back on your first time as a waste or regret it so wait until you are over 90% sure you want it. there will most likely always be some doubt on whether or not you are ready for it but you want to get rid of as much of that doubt as possible. and it sounds to me like you arent so sure you want it yet since you are asking for others opinions. hope that helps.
