How to remind him?

[purplegirl350]

Ok, well I wasn't sure where to ask this but this was the best place I could think of.

There's this guy I like, and well we're just friends. He told me he was going to give me a ring. It wasn't anything super special or anything because he said he had actually bought it for himself, but it didn't fit him, so now he told me he wanted to give it to me.
Since I like him, I accepted.

But he seems to have forgotten lately (he's a very forgetful guy).

What is a good way of reminding him about it without straight-out telling him "GIVE IT TO ME!"?

[krondragon]

Don't want to be offensive, but even if he is forgetful, if he liked you, I think he would be more dependable. Now my question is, do you want the ring or do you want to know if he likes you?

[IndiReloaded]

Wow, there are some really tacky ppl in this world.

You don't ask and you don't remind. If he wants to give it to you, he will. Tho personally, I wouldn't accept a ring from even a close friend.

[boobaa]

Indi, why you wouldn't accept it?

I don't get it, it is just a ring... It doesn't even fit to him, what should he do? Some people wear random rings, you know. I don't get this deeper meaning shit.

[IndiReloaded]

I'm just old-fashioned that way, Boobaa. From that archaic school where a ring has some significance when a man gives one to a woman. Esp one of any value that might prompt a girl to ask after it.

I've received jewelry from close male friends & its awkward. Correct me if I'm wrong, but guys don't usually give gifts like that to women unless they like them a lot. Which usually means 'more than friends' even if its not explicitly stated.

Unless they own a jewelry shop. That might be okay.

[vashti]

It's probably an inexpensive little thing. My daughter buys little rings for $5-10 and I wouldn't think twice of her giving (or receiving) one from a friend if it was clear they were ONLY friends.

But I think indi is right - you shouldn't accept an expensive gift from any male you don't have a relationship with.

[purplegirl350]

Don't want to be offensive, but even if he is forgetful, if he liked you, I think he would be more dependable. Now my question is, do you want the ring or do you want to know if he likes you?

I think I just want the ring. Him giving it to me isn't going to tell me whether he likes me or not anyway. And I realize that actually asking for it is a bit weird, since it's up to him to give it to me, so I wanted to know a way of simply REMINDING him about it and not actually telling him, "so are you going to give it to me or not?"
I would never do that.

[IndiReloaded]

Well, then its what I said. It is extremely bad manners to remind someone about giving you a gift. No matter how you do it, you will come across as ill bred.

[ecojeanne]

well like indi said, it's definitely bad manners to remind him. have you thought also even tho he's a friend would there be underlining conditions. people start off enjoying the notion of giving but when issues occur they may call in that 'favor'. it's not intentional at the beginning when giving but it happens. i personally don't accept things like that unless it's family and if i do i find ways to reciprocate sooner rather than later so there is no power issue. i know it's thinking deeper....but i'm very protective of my independence.

[zhuxiaonuan]

it seems funny, you may need a ring,tell him give a new

[purplegirl350]

ok well maybe I'll just wait it out then...see if he remembers. I don't really want to give him a bad idea of me.

[UpUpstateNY]

Yeah, I say wait it out too. As a dude, I can think he either isn't super interested or is too nervous. But if he was too nervous he wouldn't have proposed this in the first place.

Granted he could be confused as well. Either way, just wait it out.

[misombra]

jajajaaaa he didn't forget he just don't wanna give it to you.