are we going out?

[babyblue1020]

me and my guy friend have so much tension between us (physical, emotional). we basically act like a couple, yet he hasn't asked me out yet! we hold hands, hug, cuddle, he's kissed me, and all that good stuff all the time. i even met his mom/family before! and he held my hands and everything in front of them. so at this point, i'm not sure if we're considered a couple or not since he hasn't asked me yet. should i ask him about this or hint at it? or just do nothing at all and wait and see.

edit:
i also forgot to mention that he's admitted that he likes me and everyone else around us is under the impression that we are going out, but does it matter that he hasn't directly asked to be together?

[Cbrider]

It seems strange he hasn't asked you or declared it. Holding hands in front of the family? Hell that felt a little weird even when I was dating a girl.

I would just straight up ask him. "Hey buster, you hold my hand in front of your family, kiss me, etc, etc, how about you call me your girlfriend yah?"

[The Godfather]

I don't mean to sound condescending, but how old are you? The reason I ask, is because sometimes younger people tend to skip the formality of "asking out". I once was with a girl for 6 months in High School, and we NEVER talked about our relationship. We were a couple, just not on paper, so to speak.

[tooxshort]

I don't mean to sound condescending, but how old are you? The reason I ask, is because sometimes younger people tend to skip the formality of "asking out". I once was with a girl for 6 months in High School, and we NEVER talked about our relationship. We were a couple, just not on paper, so to speak.

Actually, I think it's the exact opposite. In high school, girls were very anal about being formally asked out to be in relationships, otherwise, people were just messing around.

As I got older, relationships were just happening without having to ask, it was just known and understood.

So, if you're still in high school or are a teenager and haven't been asked to be his girlfriend yet, then you guys are just in that transitional stage (here, we used to call it "talking" ... or just dating ... might be too young to call it "dating" tho)

[babyblue1020]

ooh very sharp godfather! i'm a senior in high school (:
yes, i agree that maybe it is implied that we're dating (or "talking" as tooxshort mentioned).

sorry if this sounds too trivial, but recently he's also been very bipolar about us. sometimes he would be very affectionate but other times he would be distant. i'm not sure what's going because everything up to a few days ago seemed to be fine, but now i'm scared to bring up with him if we're a couple or not because of the way he's acting :/

[tooxshort]

You're behind the steering wheel too, remember? If he ain't acting the way you want, then you don't need it. Relationships are a two-person ride ... both should feel satisfied.