She must not be a great catch. If she was you'd certainly be able to overlook something minor like no BJs. Especially if she's providing everything else.
She must not be a great catch. If she was you'd certainly be able to overlook something minor like no BJs. Especially if she's providing everything else.
God, so atrocious in the Old Testament, so attractive in the New--the Jekyl and Hyde of sacred romance.
-Mark Twain
If people are good only because they fear punishment and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.
-Albert Einstein
I think that if the OP breaks up with her over something sexual it will probably set back her recovery even more.
I couldn't marry a girl who didn't give blow jobs. In fact I couldn't even date one for too long. It would just be too frustrating.
Is it burnin'? Well, f-ck, now you're learnin'.
p.s. I think women who don't give blowjobs aren't comfortable being female, it's kind of indicative of a wider prudishness. I'm not talking about the OP's girl though obviously.
Is it burnin'? Well, f-ck, now you're learnin'.
what are ya a psychoanalyst now? haha! no it has nothing to do with prudishness it has to do with bodily fluids being squirted into the mouth (well for me anyway). for me its horrible and makes me gag so its something you guys should really appreciate coz it's not actually a pleasure for all of us gals. it think thats probably part of the reason some guys want it so much coz girls don't tend to want to do it. it's scarce therefore guys want it even more i guess.
Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching
But blowjobs don't have to end with fluids being squirted into the mouth. Just about all my girlfriends have made me tell 'em when I'm about to blow. I think that's fair enough.
Is it burnin'? Well, f-ck, now you're learnin'.
I don't mind if she does.
God, so atrocious in the Old Testament, so attractive in the New--the Jekyl and Hyde of sacred romance.
-Mark Twain
If people are good only because they fear punishment and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.
-Albert Einstein
yeah of course I still enjoy it. Personally, I don't give a f-ck if I come in their mouth or not.
In fact, I've gotten so used to it, that when I was overseas and with the brazo who did swallow, it made me feel kind of weird. Like, kind of queasy. I was thinking: are you really going to eat that. And afterwards I thought about all that come sitting in her stomach, mixed up with her food and stuff.
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Is it burnin'? Well, f-ck, now you're learnin'.
She is a good catch. She does genetics research, has multiple advanced degrees, and also does part time modeling and acting (she is really beautiful). Amazing sense of humor...hell, she even takes me out to strip clubs and buys me lap dances. She's really unbelievable.
However...as amazing as she is, relationships exist on multiple levels: emotional, intellectual, physical, and (for religious people) spiritual. I'm not religious... We connect really well emotionally and intellectually...it just gets a little routine in the bedroom. Having a close physical relationship is just as important to me as the emotional and intellectual...
Really I was looking for ways to discuss this with her, to see if it's something she can move past. This whole thing works two ways, doesn't it? In the same manner that "I should be able to give up bj's" if I really love her, doesn't the same argument hold that she should be able to be comfortable giving them if she really loves me?
not sure why /I/ would need therapy..
Actually, I was referring more to her, but since this is a problem that impacts you both, it wouldn't hurt for you to participate. After all, YOU are the one who is complaining - not her - so ultimately the problem IS yours.
Also, it sounds like you might need to work on your communication skills.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?