So much confussion and hurt

[Lost-Girl]

Well this is quite a LONG story, and I know your all gonna tell me I should let him go, say he isn't worth it and he's a bastard. But I know that and if I could let go, wouldn't I?

Well to start the story.. I got with my ex three and a half years ago.. Its always been amazing in a way.. Kisses, cuddles and promises for the future. But at the same time we would argue sooo much.. We said it can't be that bad though because it made us stronger. A few months back, everything changed. He said I couldn't go to his mums wedding because there wasn't enough seats, yet his ex was bridesmaid.. I understood this and said its fine. But then his best friend told me he's staying in the same room as his ex girlfriend.. I asked him about it later and he said he's getting his mate to stay with them to prove he won't do nothing. But he said there wasn't enough seats so how could his mate suddenly go? and besides his mate would stick up for him and say nothing happened. We argued but I forgave him because I loved him. A few weeks later he was with me when his mates came over, he suddenly seemed funny with me and ignored me. When I said I was going he said 'see ya' but usually it was 'Bye love you babe' that kind of shit. We argued yet again over it later and he said I was being over reactive. I took him back again and everything was perfect, we spent so much time together, long chats till 5am, promises of marriage etc. Id never been so happy, id even cry with happiness!

Then suddenly he stopped spending time with me.. But he'd say it wasn't fair on me to be him so much cos he was stressed so I stood by him.. After ages of this I just couldn't take no time and the way he was being and left him.. But I was just hoping it scare him into changing.. But it didn't. I told him I missed him and he said he missed me too. After that we argued sooo much and said it was my fault. I begged him back and he said he's a better person without me.. I was broken after he said that. But then every now and again hed run back.. but just for sex and I thought if I gave him it hed love me.. Till I texted him asking if he did and he said he doesn't know anymore. I found out he had a new girl all along and continued sleeping with him.she found out but didn't leave him and heblamed me even though I didn't tell her. even then the sex didn't stop till I found out he cheated on me with her. They'd only been together a week and I begged him to just come back to me and he said he can't break his promises to her... I was distraught. Even now every once in a while hell come around and flirt with me and try getting sex out of me and I always fall for it cos he promises well be together in the future but I know this won't happen cos I won't let him run back... I can't stop crying over him.. What does he want out of me and how can I just move on its been months and it still hurts like hell.

[carl1222]

It's hard to give advice if you have already rejected the only sane advice ... get on with your life without him.

You already know everything else. I can't believe that you don't see the handwriting on the wall when he defends his actions with a new girlfriend of ONE WEEK because he doesn't want to break his promises to her. WTF!!!!!?

Because of your romantic feelings for this guy, and your persistant belief in his unending supply of false promises, you have allowed yourself to sink to the status of a f*** buddy ... no, worse than that, a booty call! The only part of this that's your fault is putting up with it.

Put a "closed" sign on your bedroom door and go out and find a real man.

Carl.

[ecojeanne]

he's a LIAR. don't believe anything he tells you, in your post you discovered lies he told you therefore you know absolutely nothing about whats actually going on. you don't even know if this girl is someone he has seen all the time he was with you, YOU JUST DON'T KNOW

GET RID! you can never trust him and he has absolutely no respect for you. he's what we women call an ASSHOLE.

STOP BEGGING

sorry i know i'm ott with the caps, but i really think you need this to wake up. this guy will never bring you happiness. don't think he will -he won't.

never contact him again, block him from making any contact with you and move on. don't you deserve a guy who respects you?

forget about him and his friends and go out and have fun as a single gal should.

i'm sorry to be harsh

[agatha]

Please don't be a martyr. He's always saying that you'll be together soon so that you would give what he wanted, i.e sex. What he thinks of you, SEX MATERIAL?

Begging is the most stupid act you'll be done to other.

[UKboy]

I hate to crash the guidelines but really,are you stupid?
He's giving you false promise to get what he wants for the time being.
Seriously,wake up.
The least you could do now is to leave some dignity and respect for yourself