Inviting old crush to party

[lovesjoyajm]

Ok, this is NOT a love-related question anymore, just to be clear. (Just didn't know where else to put it.)

I met a guy over a year and a half ago at a hostel, we hit it off, wandered the city for the day, kissed. Didn't see him again till September of this year. We went out for dinner. It was good, but the end of the night was anything but - he couldn't get away fast enough, said he'd call, never did. I really have no idea why - my only thought is that I was nervous and talked WAY too much.

So, my friend and I are now planning a Christmas party. Our thanksgiving party was a smashing success and I think we'll go for more people this time - more of a bring-your-friends deal, sangria, some hors d'oeuvre. I was thinking since this is kind of a "safe" environment - not one-on-one, he'd be free to bring his girlfriend if that happens to be the issue - it might be ok to invite him. What do you think?

(He did a good job of helping me get over him by hurting my pride... at this point I'd basically just like to have things be pleasant and comfortable between us and kind of redeem myself for the last time.)

[carl1222]

There's nothing to redeem. For some reason, and there are many possibilities, he decided not to pursue a relationship with you. It happens ... that's what dating is all about.

I think asking him (and possibly his girlfriend) to a party out of the blue would seem a bit odd considering your last encounter. If he were interested in pursuing a friendship, he probably would have called.

Carl.

[Gigabitch]

If you think there's no residual weirdness there, all I can say is this: just you wait and see. invite him and let the awkwardness begin!

[lovesjoyajm]

If you think there's no residual weirdness there, all I can say is this: just you wait and see. invite him and let the awkwardness begin!

Haha, well, I didn't say there was NO awkwardness....

But I think you're right. I probably won't invite him. Come to think of it, I don't think I even have his contact info anymore.

[Mish]

He probably didn't return your calls because he didn't want to continue being friends lovesjoy. I'm sorry it went down like that.

You'll find someone better

[misombra]

girl, leave him alone. invite some hot new friend over to your party and tell him to bring all his/her hot friends.