Well, maybe not...

[Cain]

P.S. Lmao, I looked at your thread history out of boredom and came across your WoW account post. Lvl 80 Death Knight, best geared on the server hands down and holding two of the three server first titles. There has to be an end to this game.

What server? H or A? Apparently, there's not an end. I'm using a second account to level my toons, though I might be slowing down a bit to focus more on real life.

You do know that they have already or are going to remove the server first titles, right?

[Cain]

You aren't the first person to give someone a second chance. Tho I agree with CB on principle, I think that you'll be far less enamoured of her if you get back to together. You'll find yourself a lot less tolerant of her antics and, unless she has sincerely changed & learned to appreciate you (doubt it), I actually predict a relatively quick breakup, this time initiated by you.

Go for it. You won't get shredded, I think. This whole business made you stronger & more bitch-resistant.

The breakup definitely made me stronger. And not just regarding her, but regarding women in general. If I feel like this is going to happen again, I'll end it myself. I'm not going to deal with her lack of communication and if I have trust issues that I can't fix, I'll be sure to end the relationship.

No, I won't get shredded. I'm not allowing myself to. It would take quite some time for me to open up enough for it to really even hurt me if we broke up again.

But what's the point of giving her another chance? There are so many other girls out there.... what a waste of time.

You and I are different guys, CB. It didn't affect you much when you and your ex ended things like I was affected. I put more feelings and emotion into a relationship. We've gone through a lot, and I want to make sure that we've exhausted the relationship before I just give up. Yes, there are many girls out there. And I've been dating around while we were broken up. But the fact that I still think about my ex and want to see what's there just shows the difference between you and I. I want to give it one more chance.

Yea, I'm one for second chances as well. Some people dont even deserve it and they still get it. I believe people do change and become willing to work things out with their partners after doing something they shouldnt have done. But if this were to happen again then I'd cut it all completely no turning back.

Cain, I really wish you the best of luck with everything. I hope you pursue your dreams and become the best doctor you could be. I just may sound hypocritical here, but if you are you get back with this girl, please dont wear your heart on your sleeve. Stand your grounds and let her know whats what. And dont forget to mention therapy to her, cuz she surely needs it.

I won't wear my heart on my sleeve. Like I've said, I'm planning on making it harder for me to open my heart. She won't notice it, but I need to make sure I'm protected until I start to trust her again.

if somebody suggested i get therapy before they dated me i would seriously reconsider our compatibility.

If she's not willing to see a therapist eventually, then we won't be compatible anyways. There's something wrong with her emotions and the way she played with me while we were broken up. I'm not going to suggest outright that she go see a therapist. Eventually, I'll suggest that we see one together and I'll hope that will lead to more one on one time between them.

I do feel like she needs to see one though.

[misombra]

who doesn't have problems and need a therapist, cain?

she's just a young girl going through things. the whole therapist thing is ridiculous. just face it, if you get back together with her, it's because you chose that. if you can't live with that choice then don't make it. if you want to get back with her, then do it. laying all the rules and stipulations on her is what really peeved her the last time you two broke up. she doesn't need therapy because she's unwilling to deal with your rules.

many people think compliance is the better part of a person. i heard that in a class i took recently.

[Cain]

who doesn't have problems and need a therapist, cain?

she's just a young girl going through things. the whole therapist thing is ridiculous. just face it, if you get back together with her, it's because you chose that. if you can't live with that choice then don't make it. if you want to get back with her, then do it. laying all the rules and stipulations on her is what really peeved her the last time you two broke up. she doesn't need therapy because she's unwilling to deal with your rules.

many people think compliance is the better part of a person. i heard that in a class i took recently.

We didn't break up because of rules. There were no rules imposed on her unless you mean the usual ones such as don't cheat, don't lie, communicate effectively, etc...

Whether we get back together or not, I still think she needs to see a therapist. I don't think she's a psycho, but I think she needs help in dealing with her emotions so she can avoid doing what she's done in the past. That's it. So, I'm not sure where you got the idea that I think she needs therapy because she won't deal with rules that I never imposed.

The issue at hand is this: if we break up again, we're done for good. No future. No friendship. It will be completely over. I'd like for us to have a shot at this, but if she's going to do what she's done in the past because she doesn't know how to deal with it then we're doomed from the beginning. And like I've said, I'm not going to outright tell her that I think she needs therapy. I'm going to suggest it as a couple as a way to figure out the best ways for us to deal with our issues together and hope that something more comes out of it for her.

[misombra]

i think you leaving her alone is the best thing you could do for her and yourself.

but whatev.

[Cain]

i think you leaving her alone is the best thing you could do for her and yourself.

but whatev.

Why?

I don't mind your response. I'm just curious as to why you have this opinion.

[misombra]

eh, i think i'll let you experience it on your own. cause i love you.

[Cain]

eh, i think i'll let you experience it on your own. cause i love you.

I'm not paying attention to your posts any longer. I am absolutely tired of hearing this from you.

You post opinions and then hide behind your reasons, if you even have any reasons.

[misombra]

don't cry.
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[Cbrider]

What server? H or A? Apparently, there's not an end. I'm using a second account to level my toons, though I might be slowing down a bit to focus more on real life.

You do know that they have already or are going to remove the server first titles, right?

They removed server first titles, but not server first raid titles.

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For what its worth, some people may say different, but I respect the fact that you are going to exhaust your chances to fix this. Persistence in these situations isn't always a bad thing. You're not jumping in head first out of panic or need, you're doing it because its what you want after you checked other options.

[Cain]

For what its worth, some people may say different, but I respect the fact that you are going to exhaust your chances to fix this. Persistence in these situations isn't always a bad thing. You're not jumping in head first out of panic or need, you're doing it because its what you want after you checked other options.

I used to think that I needed to have her in my life. Since the breakup, I've realized that I don't need her, but I do want the relationship that we had pre-breakup backup if it's actually possible. If not, I can walk away from this knowing that I have no regrets and that I did everything I possibly could to see if this could work.