Just a phone sex partner? so where do i stand in your heart?

[carl1222]

To Carl : Thanks for the great advice Really appreciate your take on this matter and yes, i will try to forget him. Anyway i told him the truth last year. But that doesnt matter anymore i guess. For now, i'll concentrate on studying and learning to be happy with myself. Heartbroken as i am now, i hope that some time later i will update you guys on how great my life will be after getting over this.

You bring up a great point, Hope ... I advised you on how to get him out of your head, but failed to suggest how to fill the void.

And you perceptively realize that your concentration should be on yourself right now. Do bold and amazing things for/by yourself, and forget about romance right now. Enjoy being single and all it's possibilities. You're 17 now, enjoy the gift of youth! When you get to uni next year, be prepared to knock them dead with the new and confident Hope ... free at last of a way too long, way inappropriate 4-year relationship.

Please keep us updated!

Carl.

ps ... if you ever get the urge to call yourself "ugly" again, post it here so I can cyber-smack you!!!

[Hope]

Yes i'll definitely update you guys once i feel that ive made a vast improvement In fact, i might even post pics of myself having the time of my life. If that ever happens, im gonna have to thank my friends and you guys here for giving great advice and support!


p.s .. Carl, thanks! your last post made me smile im looking forward to the new me too

[Illusional]

haha well that is only "me" being honest... i'm not a youngster anymore.

raverboy

[habubbles]

if you wanted to be in a real relationship you wouldnt of lied about how you look.no matter who the guy is, if a guy really loved he wouldnt care about how you look. its who you are that counts not what you look like.

[carl1222]

if you wanted to be in a real relationship you wouldnt of lied about how you look.no matter who the guy is, if a guy really loved he wouldnt care about how you look. its who you are that counts not what you look like.

That was part of it, habubbles ... but she was also concealing the fact that she was a 14 year-old girl.

[Hope]

An update so far guys.. i wished in this update i could tell you guys that i totally got over him and that im having the blast of my life. but since i wana be honest, i'll just say it then. well i guess i cant let go of things so easily, did try to forget him but im still reminded of him every now and then. and i keep repeating to myself that he doesnt feel anything for me and that i dont need this guy. And recently i found out that he just got a new gf, whom he is so proud of. wished i could say im unaffected, but i am. actually felt that painful tug inside and im still feeling it now. but i think im going to be better in the next few days. so thats my update so far. By the way i did sth amazing for myself, i got this daring new haircut and i think i look prettier )

[Gigabitch]

The pain is just nature's way of making sure you don't do that again. Let it do it's job.

You'll be fine, Hope, eventually.

[Hope]

Thanks Gigabitch,im quite confident too that i'll be fine eventually. its just that the pain is killing me.

[Petit Papillon]

An update so far guys.. i wished in this update i could tell you guys that i totally got over him and that im having the blast of my life. but since i wana be honest, i'll just say it then. well i guess i cant let go of things so easily, did try to forget him but im still reminded of him every now and then. and i keep repeating to myself that he doesnt feel anything for me and that i dont need this guy. And recently i found out that he just got a new gf, whom he is so proud of. wished i could say im unaffected, but i am. actually felt that painful tug inside and im still feeling it now. but i think im going to be better in the next few days. so thats my update so far. By the way i did sth amazing for myself, i got this daring new haircut and i think i look prettier )

I tell You Hope what I did to avoid "reminders of him" . When I was still under the shock I blocked him on facebook on msn, erased his number from my phone , erased pictures from the desktop and from msn.I took our picture from the wall and put it on the wardrobe.Also a pillow from him and his t-shirt.I downloaded new music to listen something which will not remind me of him and it works somehow i called my mum and cried it out to the phone. then i chatted with my friend(i think it's the best friends always say how big asshole Your ex is ;P ) ,on the next day i still felt bad so I went to the bar , sat in the corner and took a lond island cocktail ,and stayed there alone ,just to think .I think i was sitting there for 7 hours But I think talk ,talk is the best . With Your best friend,with Your mum or dad if You can. Just talk it out I talked also with another male friend. I think it was good too,he was hehe still is like " come back to earth he's an asshole but it's over,leave it behind" ,everytime i said something about my ex he said " come on, he's not the last and You're better than that" lamenting about Yourself just keeps You drowning in this issue. everytime You start,just think how good is that it's already over . Because the whole "moving on" thing is only in Your head.Just redirect Your thoughts.fight for Yourself

[Hope]

Thanks pettit! today i think i've grown stronger. Finally had the courage to email him and tell him that i want to stop talking to him and everything. as expected, he didnt reply my mail but im pretty sure he read it.. so im kind of proud of myself today

[Lite]

There isn't any one of us who doesn't occasionally feel pangs of, "I wish that person were eternally suffering for not having me in their life." Usually, it's just kind of a rotten feeling like they've moved on and we're still hurting.

Anymore I like to think of it as, "I'm being careful and conscientious about whom I date, and they're out banging someone like a screen door in a hurricane as a coping mechanism." Which, while likely true, is still nothing more than a coping mechanism.

Once a long time ago I broke up with a long time girlfriend of 7 years. We didn't talk for a few weeks, and things for me were really kind of ugly. When we did talk, the first thing she said was, "I'm dating a real man now." Which, you know, that hurt quite a lot. My (amusing but sad that I had to retaliate) response was simply, "How nice for you. I was so happy to be rid of you that I went to Disney World to celebrate." Which, she didn't believe me, accused me of making things up... So I scanned the plane ticket stub from the flight I'd taken.

(Yes, I had really gone to DW to celebrate, and luckily for me I walked into the hotel w/ a banner reading "Welcome National College Cheerleading and Dance Squad Championships!"... Oddly enough the previous time I'd gone I'd run into HS cheerleaders invading Busch Gardens")

Boy was that ever a great vacation for me.

Anyway, short version is. Make them go away, and work on simply being happy for you that the stress and hassle is gone for now.

[Petit Papillon]

Hope no problem Well I just woke up and I've had a dream of him but for my sake I already needed to wake up.I know I will dream about him long time... But this whole "relationship" was a dream. I was dreaming his better version,the first one, will come back.Nope : )
But I have to tell You guys 2 days ago I've had such a crazy dream,I have more such like this ,but this was extra crazy
I was dreaming that my ex came to me and started to kiss me.In my dream I knew it was over but I couldn't stop.After this kiss we felt asleep.As we woke up , it was still a night. I've looked outside the window and I saw T-Rex (Dinosaur) on the street and a guy who was fighting with him And I saw also statists ,and one of them was George Clooney I said to my self,gosh wow they are making movie here.And I went to the coffee shop.I wanted to take Latte Machiatto but the clerk told me they have new good coffee made of cereals I've tasted it and it was good.I also visited my best friend,my first school...And then I came back to home and my ex was still there and he wanted to kiss me and touch me again but I've stopped him and I said hey,You think I am going to come back to You everytime You want it? I don't belive You anymore
And I woke up Ok I understand My ex,George Clooney too (because i saw his advertisment on tv last day) but what the hell is this T-Rex? can anybody tell me??
Greets

[Hope]

omg haha i think your dream was ridiculous but hilarious. I mean george cloony? haha i wish i could get such interesting dreams! but you go girl! for the last part when you stopped and said you're not gonna believe him anymore. That was a way cool ending and i have no idea what the TRex is supposed to mean

[Hope]

And by the way, pettit, i do admit i have a selective memory. Its like i tend to think of him as the same person who used to message me everyday years ago, and i just delude myself when i know that he has changed. Like you said, dream of his better version, what we could do together, its like this whole relationship is a dream... I tried to think of the times when he made me feel so rejected or when he made me wait the entire night for his call/ sms. But somehow, i will still tend to think of what he used to be like... i really need to wake up.for real.

[Petit Papillon]

Yeah for real Look we are better than this. I could have a lot of guys till now if I wanted to.Better than him. And so can You Just stop to dream about this jerk. Everybody can. Yes we can! Listen to Talib Kweli "hot thing" , really good and give a boost to me Maybe it helps You too Greets