help..advice..please..

[Alwaysconfused]

Hey there all...i really need help im soo confused with this girl..

okay so here's what's going on...recently i have started liking this girl i new..before we didn't really talk just we knew eachother..but after we started talking about stuff we really became good friends...and i started to like her...it kinda suprised me...but yea she went to canada and i didnt see her for awhile...and when she came back it felt like we were getting closer...i started telling friends that i liked her..and of course word got out and she found out i liked her...i don't know really she said she didnt like me that way...so we stayed friends..good one's at that..anyway we went to a christian retreat..and things just got closer i thought we usually went on private walks just to talk..to get away from a group and just normally talk...she said that she could tell me anything and that's how much she tursted her...well the thing is my friend likes this girl also but he never talks to her...so everyone thinks he has no chance..but after the retreat..when we got home...i don't know what happened...we are still GREAT friends and all but i never see her anymore..i still like her ALOT it's almost as if it's love...but i don't know for sure..the thing is she wont go out with me...and i talked to my friends about it and all of them think she likes me but she is afraid that if we go out then brake up it will ruin our relationship with eachother that's why she's holding back...my friends said they will talk to her..so i waited..i waited a long time and then i decided that she knows best and that if she wanted to be friends then it's the best for us so i tried to get over her...thing is it's summer and i moved to a new place and i don't know anyone..so i have a lot of free time..and all that free time gets you thinking you know..and all i could ever think of what that girl...she kept poping up in my mind and everytime i try to get her out..she just pops right back in there...it's driving me Crazy thinking about her...cuz when i think about her..i can see her...her face...and when i see her it just makes me smile.....But...the thought of us only being friends...just makes me one more bit sad...Im so confused and mixed up..im Trying to get her out of my mind...but i just can't help it...it's hard to say you don't like someone when you heart say's you love that someone..I really want to get her out of my mind and get over her so that i wont be in so much pain everytime i think about her and see her..i just want to be happy around her..but i always think that we'll never be...but another part of me says that i need to be with her cuz being with her makes me happy...i made a list on why i like her so much....and a Whole lot of reasons were on that paper...to me she's perfect..nothing is wrong with her and if i could be with her I would feel like im the luckiest guy in the world..but EVERYtime i keep saying to myself were only gunna be friends....all i can say is im Afraid of rejection i dont know what she will say if i ask her out...people says she likes me but i dont know if it is true...if it is thought it Would be coolest thing in the world...But im still confused i guess the real advice is should keep trying to get over her and be friends....or should i keep trying to get with her..?? cuz im confused in what to do.....

[dazedandconfused]

trust me, man, when she goes on to have a boyfriend who wasn't too slow to ask her out, you'll be thinking you were a fool. remember this: it is better to think back on the times when you tried and didn't succeed than look back and regret having never tried!!! just think about it: when she starts dating a great guy and falls in love with him, he will be her main friend, he will be her best friend, and all the other friends, both male and female, will be secondary. and even if you were her best friend right now, you will still be secondary to the new best friend found in her beloved boyfriend. so, WOULDN'T YOU WANT TO BE THAT GUY?????? just take the step, man! if you set the record straight, you really will have no more confusion. things will be quite clear-cut from then on: if she starts to go out with you, you could use all this time to build your relationship instead of speculating "when" or "what". if she rejects your feelings, you could sigh with relief and move on, wasting no more time on hope of a better future together. either way you win! because if she isn't the one for you, you would continue your search, and maybe the one is just around the corner! and if she is the one... well, don't you think it's time to finally be together???

the answer to your question - whether to pursue a romantic relationship with her or to get her out of your head and concentrate on your friendship - is very simple. ask her out. it's the only way to know.

important though. don't "just" ask her out. prepare for it well (prepare for a possible rejection as well), so that you would be able to say: "i gave it my best shot". let's see what happens!

good luck, man!