Guess with Christmas/New Year etc, it's got me all sentimental and thinking of texting the ex to wish him Happy New Year. So reasons why I shouldn't:
1. He said it was a clean break but continued to text me.
2. One of these texts said he wanted to spend his life with me.
3. A few days after this when I responded favourably he started to back off. He then told me he had started seeing someone else.
4. He went out with her the night he sent me the text about spending his life with me. (He sent the text AFTER being out with her).
5. He told me he did not want to mess her around. He had only being seeing her 2 weeks compared to 2 years, 9 months with me!
6. Saw stuff later which indicates he was making a move on her whilst we were still together.
7. The reason we split was because I was not ready to move in with him. He had only given me the key to his house a month before.
8. The woman he is seeing weighs 70 plus pounds more than me. He has always criticised overweight women (and still does!!)
9. He has continued to flirt with me even though he knows I wanted to get back together with him. He has denied flirting but others agree that he has done this
10. Even after he told me about the new woman, he told me that he had made choices so that he could see me more often.
11. We work together. I am looking for another job because of all this. As far as he is concerned, he does not feel the need and thinks we can work together.
12. Before I responded to his text about a life together, we were very obviously heading back to starting the relationship. I am sure he would have been happy for us to have been seeing each other and carry on seeing the other woman without telling me.
13. Need I say more!!!!
And yes. some of you may know more of my story in that this was a man I had an affair with and that I am married so I recognise hypocrisy in some of the things I have said but I want to stop myself thinking about this ***** in a positive way and remind myself about how badly he treated me.