I have been seeing someone casually for 4 years. I last saw him on 8/10 and prior to that on 7/17. During the three weeks I did not see him, I tried to call him several times. No return call and no answer on his cell. I saw him at work on Friday of the second week and he told me how busy he was and he was thinking of seeing me on Monday or Tuesday. I said ok. Well Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday of the third week he called but I was hurt and ignored him. I know game playing is wrong. I did see him on 8/10 before he left on vacation. We had a nice time and I helped him pack and do laundry. I told him I missed him but only liked him for his pool. He did not like that comment and I told him I was joking and that he knows I love him. I have never said that and was scared. He said nothing back to me.
As we were just sitting, I suggested that the week after he is back from vacation that we should spend a whole night together. He stated "that is a big step" I was taken back and just stated for him to think about it. I do love him and I feel we would be good as a couple. Anyway, I told him it was late and I needed to go, he asked me to stay longer with him. I did, as I was leaving he called me several times by a pet name. I heard it was before, but not so often as last Tuesday.
My question is what is this big step and what is going on with him. If I ask I feel I will get, I am busy, not ready etc... but this is a man I have been intimately involved with for four years. Maybe I am not for him, and that will for sure hurt.
Any thoughts or suggestions?