Originally Posted by
ecojeanne
i don't see my view as defeatist but rather self preservation.
It must be the hopeless romantic in me (Yes, folks tis true, mine is merely well tempered.) but isn't the point of such a relationship to find a person whom you trust so implicitly that you surrender your heart to them?
It isn't self preservation, it's a half measure coping mechanism that you personally set in place over your failure to address the underlying issue of why you let him treat you poorly in the first place.
Repeat after me. "I am a worthwhile person, and I will not date people who are beneath my love, trust, and own self worth." Repeat that line often enough until you believe it.
Last edited by Lite; 07-01-09 at 02:06 AM.
"Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."