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    Why risk it?

    Why would a guy leave a girl for someone else? I was with a guy for a ear and he up & left me for someone else. We're back together but I feel she was more important and he's just with me now because she left him, although he did try to get me back (not very hard though).
    Am I right?

    Thank you very much!

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    I'm not a guy... but I think they leave us because they fall out of love.. they aren't happy w/ us anymore.
    love,the greatest gift of all... =)

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    Don't be his back up plan.
    He'll do it to you again.

    You need to end the relationship and find someone who will put you as their number 1 priority.

    Why do girls always stay with guys that treat them like crap?

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    Men and women leave their significant others for the same reasons, ...and those reasons are too many to list, ...but I will list a few of the ones I think are most common,

    ...bored with a relationship that has lost passion,

    ...in a relationship that is not working (arguments, frustration, bickering, physical altercations)

    ...feeling taken for granted

    ...being treated badly,

    ...something better comes along,


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    Thanks for the responses.

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    Can we put this with the other thread? They are really the same topic.

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    This is sad...
    i wish i could be as strong as you, by admiting it if it happens to me too... maybe it did happen, i seems to talent avoid admitting it to myself all along

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    Quote Originally Posted by deserae90 View Post
    Am I right?
    Very much so. Get some self worth and dump his arse. You should be worth more than just playing second fiddle.

    I'm a firm believer that once a relationship is over it should be over for good. It doesn't really seem to work out after a 'break' or anything like that.

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    i do think that you are his back up by the sounds of it. maybe you don't mind tho, you did take him back after-all. maybe he's your back up too? or maybe you suit each other? you need to figure out whether you value him and he values you. if there is any doubt then i would recommend that you both move on.
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    He found something shiny and new that distracted him from the importance of a REAL relationship w/ someone who cares about you. And then he treated you as his backup. When she dumped his ass, he went running back to what he knew.

    I think you should take a long, hard look at what you will and will not accept from a mate in a relationship. If you do keep him, let him know that he burned his get out of jail free card, and there will not be a next time.
    "Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."

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    I don't understand what the risk is here? I don't see any risks. In many cases staying is a risk of not getting to enjoy a new relationship and new sex.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Only-virgins View Post
    I don't understand what the risk is here? I don't see any risks. In many cases staying is a risk of not getting to enjoy a new relationship and new sex.
    Don't forget new diseases!
    "Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lite View Post
    Don't forget new diseases!
    Yea well they sure beat old ones
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    "because I paid attention in science class."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Only-virgins View Post
    Yea well they sure beat old ones
    Dunno, some of the old diseases are the kind that just keep on giving ya know?
    "Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."

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