Please help me, serious problem with a crazy x

[nhim]

hi all,

please help me with this serious prolem. I am 25. I met this guy on chat, he didnt tell me he is 46 yrs (he lied to me that he was 28). after 1 yrs chatting, he came to my country to meet me. I just felt very disaapointed when i first saw him how ever, just becoz he was truthful (??) during the time we were online so i thought it would be no prolem. we were on a vacation together and from there, i realzied that he was a sickle. he wanted to have sex all the imte and hwen i rejected, he got mad and nearly hit me, and you know what, he asked for all the things that he gave me as gifts back (including an underwears). Does that make you sick hearing it? I was so pissd off but i know he might have killed me if i said i wanted to say bye bye to him by then. I waited till he back to his country and i told him i dont want to be with him anymore. So he started going nut, he called my cell night and days, calling me names and asking for things back. He called my work and tell everyone i was a user and i was a whore. He sent emails to my work as well. He said he will come over soon to my country and go to my work, telling my neighbor to make me shameful. What do i do now to get rid of him, i didnt write him or answer his phone ever since. I AM SO HEADACHE AND STRESSED BECOZ OF THIS CRAZY PERSON. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO, PLEASE PLEASE!!!!

[Amyejean]

First off I would save EVERYTHING that he has written to you, or sent you. If he has called your work and told people that you are a whore and a user, I would get a restraining order aainst him. That is considered harassment, and you don't need it, and you don't deserve it. Call the cops! Show them the letters, have co-workers verify this guys is nuts.
Second of all i would change your cell number and your house number.
I would tell the receptionist or the person in charge of taking phone calls at your work to screen your calls and write down how many times he calls. He can be charged with stalking and harassment.
Last off, stay off the chat rooms. Chats are not the bestway to meet people, cause most people have their own little fansity life that they live off the internet, and when the truth comes out, things are not always fun.

Hope this helps you.

Amye

[nhim]

thank you very much for your advice Amye, my mom is very worried for my security right now. I have all of those things like you mentioned and my secretary at work she can regconise that guy's voice and my boss already warned him that if hes going to call we can sue him for harrasement but you know, hes just being nut or he doesnt care. i dont know. and yet, my country sucks, they dont care much about harrasement

Do you think it will be ok for me to meet up with him and talk to him one more time, i just dont want to see him again really, the thought of seeing him just makes me sick....

Thank you again for reading this and replied me. I appreciate it.

[Amyejean]

Are you NUTS? DO NOT GO SEE HIM!!!!!
Thats like walking into a lions den, when they have starved the lions for weeks. In your post you said that you were on Vacation with him and you were afriad of telling him that you had no intrest him in, cause of fear of him killing you?? What do you think he's going to do, when you talk to him, take everything that he's been doing and just stop caus eyou asked him...NO he won't he will probably hurt you, if he is that mental. You need to stay away from him. Ignor him if possible. But do not think that going to talk to him is going to stop the harassment, it will just make it worse.

Me

[LucidDream]

Hmmm Deja Vu... perhaps It didnt post last time I tryed.

Anyway - If he is as bad as you say then perhaps you can consult a lawyer and have a restraint put on him.
Remember, harassment is Illegal

Oh wait, I found an Identical thread, lol