Love?

[slim_nash]

Hello everybody,

Im new here, and the first thing i do is open a new thread

I am together with a girl for about two weeks now, spend some evenings together talking and kissing...
But now she told me she doesn't know what to do, because she doesn't know if she is really in love whith me... When we are togheter she likes it a lot she says, but when i'm not around she has doubts. So she doesn't know if we should continue. Now i am totally in love with her, and i told her we should continue until she knows what to do...

So now whe're gonna talk about it later this week, But what should i do/say....

Anyone?......

[kikibrown22]

Wow, the 'L' word after 2 weeks? Maybe it's just me, but the mention of it after such a short period of time would definitely freak me out - though I have my own issues. How can you love someone you barely know?

As for her feelings, I'm like that with the current guy I'm dating. When I'm with him I know exactly how I feel about him, but when we're apart I begin to forget those feelings and start to doubt things. I wonder if it's maybe that she likes you, just doesn't like you enough to want to take things further. That or maybe there's a quality about you that doesn't bother her when you're together, but when she's alone and thinks about it then she thinks it's a problem (e.g. in my situation the guy is the same height as me, and I generally like to date taller guys, but when I'm with him I forget about it being an issue, but when we're apart I let it get to me).

Be careful that you're not coming on too strong. While the first stages of dating are exciting and you want to be with that person all the time, you still want there to be some challenge and mystery so that you don't get sick of each other.

Sounds to me like she's trying to ease you into a breakup. When you do talk to her, try to get her to explain why she's been having doubts and what she's really looking for in a relationship (or if she's looking for one at all). Offer to take things more slowly until she figures her stuff out, but watch that she's not going to string you along.

[slim_nash]

I'm a lot taller than her, so that shouldn't be the problem :p

lol

I dont think that there is something about me she doesn't like, at least she told me so (or this is a part only woman can understand). It's more that she doesn't know wether she wants something, or is just trying to get some "attention". But it indeed sounds like easing the breakup...

anyway, i'll try to stick to your advise, i'll try to find out what she's looking for in a relationship and if she really wants one... take it slowly and i'll see... I don't think she's going to string me, since she's been so honest so far (which is very good i think, saves me from nasty surprises) Thank you very much, i'll keep you informed