touching.

[vashti]

If you weren't creeped out, then I'd try to overlook it. People do all kinds of weird stuff, but mean no harm. It's like those stupid kumbaya circles where everyone hugs. I absolutely hate them, but I always participate. It doesn't really HURT anything....

[Mish]

m's family kisses on both cheeks and i don't really do that but if they want to then whatever.

I hated that when I was with my ex ex. Her family would kiss on the cheek sometimes, but not other times and the guy had to initiate it. It used to drive me nuts trying to figure out which times are appropriate cheek kissing and which times are not. And people would seriously hate you if you messed up. Like they wished you were dead if you did it wrong <Shrugs>

[Illusional]

would you care for your complimentary massage from illusional now misombra??

raverboy

[Gribble]

to me we're alien. we put so much energy in creating social norms and we neglect our own basic needs to fit into it.

Not me. To hell with culture, tradition and making other people happy.

When people start getting touchy feely I just cross my arms and give them a look. Nothing needs to be said. Nothing needs to be done. No different than a pissed off cat arching its back. Gets the point across with no blood lost.

Christ, I could never do a kumbaya hug. I don't even hug my own mom. Handshakes are another thing that piss me off. Keep your ****ing grubby mitts to yourself. If you want to touch me either grow a pair of tits and a vagina or put on some gloves and take a swing.

[misombra]

yeah i think it's a little different for guys.

[Gribble]

I don't see why it has to be.

If some jerk rubs the back of my sister's neck I'll break his hand for him.

[misombra]

wow. my reaction isn't quite so violent.

[Steve007]

so lately there have been some awkward moments where men just touch me. a man today (i see him once a month or so) at work gave me this long pat on my back.

then the other day a friend went up behind me and rubbed his hand down my neck.

since when is it okay to do that?

1. It's only okay to do that if you allow it or declare that it is okay, obviously you did not want this to happen so as of this moment no it is not okay to do that.

2. Wow men are such perverts, I would know, since I am one myself, but I would never touch a girl in places like her neck and stuff unless she was my girlfriend.

3. It sucks being a girl, so just be careful and carry pepper spray or something, because men who rape do exist out there and it wouldn't hurt to have something to defend yourself with.

That's pretty much all I can say about that. I hope I was helpful.

[Indignant]

I don't even hug my own mom.

exactly, my peoples hug and kiss their parents all the time. i spoke to other american moms who have told me that they feel bad for not being able to be that close to their sons.

[Lipp]

"Get that hand off my back or I'll snap your cock in half!"

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

When I dont like how someone touches me and I know their intentions are not to make me feel uncomfortable, I let them know politely that I am not comfortable with the situation. But when they intentionally do shit, I slap them the **** off curse the **** out of them. Ugh just thinking about it is upsetting me all over again. I also when people are too close to me just to hold a conversation. I just step off. And every time they inch towards me after I make it obvious that I am movin away from them, I ask them why they are following me and to give me some space. It gets annoying to me.

[Illusional]

awww i guess no massage for you then....

raverboy

[Chlorine]

cause i'm one of those people that wants to be part of the people you know? when in rome, or something. as long as it's not too weird i don't really mind.

............the neck guy often comes up to people and massages their back. it's not just me he does that to. the other guy, well i don't know what he was doing.

it didn't feel bad. it felt, weird. just made me think about it i guess.

Misombra-----Like you said, it felt weird. I reckon they were just taking liberties with you. Cheap thrill for them.

You make the rules. Next time don't let them get away with it.

[annoyed23]

this is interesting...i dont generally like being touched, unless I initate it. unless its my family...then its different. but strangers and aquaintences...not a fan.

[Everlovin]

Not me. To hell with culture, tradition and making other people happy.

When people start getting touchy feely I just cross my arms and give them a look. Nothing needs to be said. Nothing needs to be done. No different than a pissed off cat arching its back. Gets the point across with no blood lost.

Christ, I could never do a kumbaya hug. I don't even hug my own mom. Handshakes are another thing that piss me off. Keep your ****ing grubby mitts to yourself. If you want to touch me either grow a pair of tits and a vagina or put on some gloves and take a swing.

Were you picked on too much in school? The other kids flicked your hears one to many times?

I am guessing that you live in America and not some remote place, void of human habitation, such as the Sahara Desert.

America is a melting pot. So when a Russian guy hugs you and kissses you, that is part of YOUR culture. When a chicano woman touches the back of your hand with her other hand when you shake hands that is part of YOUR culture. Heck when people eat with chopsticks that is part of YOUR culture.

Unless you beleive that the only true culture is that of the original people's. Which I doubt because you are not a Native American living in a Teepee.