Now what?

**DUKE546** · 30-01-09, 08:20 AM

Just for a reference people may want to refer to my other article before reading this one. Since I can't post the url to my last thread, you will have to find on the second page of the "Love Advice Forum" tilted "my heart is confused and slightly broken.

So anyway the girl that I can't stop thinking about and makes my heart melt has just broken up with her boyfriend. They were fighting to much and they were just tried of it,not because of me I might add. I laid low and just chatted with her on facebook and at school.

My question is now what? I am going to do what some other people on here told me to do and not hound her right away about dating(That is a given). I really and I mean really care about her and want to take my time and do this right. She means a lot to me and she doesn't even know it haha. I definitely want to get to know her better but I don't want to talk to her so much that I enter the not so great "FRIEND ZONE"

So how do I let her know that I am in to her with not actually telling her I am in to her?

Advice would REALLY be great because this girl means more to me then I could ever explain in words to you guys/gals and I don't want her getting away!

Thanks

**carl1222** · 30-01-09, 08:35 AM

I'm a big fan of directness and honesty, so how does this sound, Duke?

1) tell her you are sorry that her relationship failed; and
2) you know she needs time to sort things out; but
3) you wanted her to know that when she is ready, you are interested in pursuing a possible romantic relationship with her; so
4) if she is interested and when she is ready, keep you in mind.

No friendzone on that one!

Carl.

**Lite** · 30-01-09, 08:59 AM

Just tell her that you're interested in her but understand she's going through a rough time...and that if she's interested, you'd love to take her on a date when she feels ready. The end.

**carl1222** · 30-01-09, 09:04 AM

Originally Posted by Lite

Just tell her that you're interested in her but understand she's going through a rough time...and that if she's interested, you'd love to take her on a date when she feels ready. The end.

Brevity is a virtue ... yeah, just follow Lite's script.

Carl.

**Lite** · 30-01-09, 09:22 AM

Originally Posted by carl1222

Brevity is a virtue ... yeah, just follow Lite's script.

Carl.

I just like that it keeps it simple. Not too many words to stumble over, and establishes up front that you are not interested in the friend zone.

**DUKE546** · 30-01-09, 09:39 AM

Wow guys thats some advice, and believe me i would absolutly love to do that but i am shy and what if she just stares at me or laughs. O man I got like 50 things going though my mind on what could go wrong. Also i am not very good at expressing my emotions, I would get nervous and screw up somehow.

**Lite** · 30-01-09, 09:53 AM

Originally Posted by DUKE546

Wow guys thats some advice, and believe me i would absolutly love to do that but i am shy and what if she just stares at me or laughs. O man I got like 50 things going though my mind on what could go wrong. Also i am not very good at expressing my emotions, I would get nervous and screw up somehow.

Look, if she stares at you and laughs you don't really want to be dating her anyway. At that point you'd firmly know that she's not a worthwhile person. I'm pretty damn shy and I have indeed been laughed at..you know what. Life goes on.

**DUKE546** · 30-01-09, 10:56 AM

Haha she wouldn't really laugh at me i was throwing something out there, i guess i have to bite the bullet and dive in there... All i can do is try. I will seen how the next couple days go.

**carl1222** · 30-01-09, 02:18 PM

Originally Posted by DUKE546

Haha she wouldn't really laugh at me i was throwing something out there, i guess i have to bite the bullet and dive in there... All i can do is try. I will seen how the next couple days go.

Keep us posted ... we like to see how things work out.

Carl.

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