My ex-girlfriend and her new man pass my house every day...

[Yacker]

Maybe you shouldn't be looking out the window for them? This seems like a simple solution, sounds like to me you are looking for them intentionally. To confirm what swargolet is saying I am living proof of worse.

The girl I fell for after 2 years is now living with a co-worker that works with me and she works on the same floor as me. She moved in after she slept with my best friend from 4 years old on who was staying on my couch for a few months because he needed a place to live. This shocked the hell out of me I am now a bigger and better man taking the high road. When I see her in the office I smile at her and realize that she gave me a gift as in showing what a complete piece of messed up crap she was and that I am now free to find a woman that'll respect me.

When we were together and I was in la la land I thought she was the most incredible girl I've ever met and still there are tons of qualities that were great about her that I am looking for in another woman. Her evil side and the crap qualities that created this mess show me what to avoid at all costs!!! Forgive her, love yourself and when you see them just know one of them is in for world of sh*t and you are no longer part of it. Just stop looking out that window for a while.

[Mish]

Why not put a sign out on your lawn that says:

"Cheating whore passes by here at 9 AM every day ... tickets $5.00"

hehe ... of course, you know the correct answer ... do nothing!

I like the cheating whore sign solution better

[1averagejoe]

DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT TALK TO THE NEW BOYFRIEND!!! YOU'LL SOUND LIKE A LITTLE PUSSY

Call me an asshole but I'm know to be somewhat of a sarcastic asshole and know how to push my ex's buttons. I've said some things that I know really put her on edge and made her uncomfortable. Think Dr. House...and her face the times I've said some things! lol...priceless. That's the best revenge imho.

Btw...my ex cheated on me with a few guys while we were together. You'll get over it. It takes time.

[Cbrider]

You know that somewhere inside she is doing this intentionally to get a rise out of you. Do you want to give her satisfaction after what she did? Hell no.

You have to ignore it, even if you hurt inside and are upset about it, you have to pretend it doesn't bother you.

The last thing you want to do is give her any reason at all to think that this is bothering you, that will give her a twisted sense of satisfaction. You got burned, a lot of us here have been or will be. In the end, the better person ALWAYS wins, its just the price you pay is to take the first hit generally.

It wont show for a while, but I guarantee you that their relationship will statistically fall apart. People who leave one person and jump to the next are not capable of having a healthy relationship, they are driven by desires that the rest of us aren't. Relationship hopping like she did is like playing Russian Roulette with your emotions. She lives in excitement and bliss, but the first time she gets the wrong chamber the fun stops and shes going to get what she dished out ten fold back at her.

You're dealing with the hardest part of the break up/break down right now, if you can clear this you're golden, just stay strong and stay stubborn to a degree.

[and_for_what]

I really like her mother We're good friends, I miss her family more than I miss her at the moment, lol


I feel a bit less gay about this right now, lol. I can't believe I was thinking of contacting him about it

Thanks for the replies - yea, I'm better about this. In the last week I've felt a lot better about stuff.

re: not looking out the window - well, you know that's hard. I don't want to see them, but I can't help knowing they're there to be seen! Anyway, like I said I feel better and stuff. I've been going out a lot (something I don't normally do), and meeting some new people. It helps loads