Ok..

[misdirectionx]

I met a girl in college, and it's my last quarter here. She won't be graduating until next year. Anyways, I was in a massaging class for my PE electives and I met her during the 5th week in class when she for some odd reason collapsed on the floor. The teacher rushed to her aid and she was just fine.

After class I immediately im'd her on facebook and to see if everything was okay with her. She nodded and thanked for my concern. Then I asked her if she would like to go out to eat near our college and she said fine, and was willing to pick me up (she had to drive here because it's near our college).

She drove me to the restaurant, I got out of the car and walk her over by the door. I opened the door and let her in and the waitress showed us our seat. By the time we sat down, I look confident in her eyes and started talking about several different things. I made her laugh on and off and everything went well. I even asked her if she wanted to go bowling and she nodded happily.

After we're done eating, she dropped me off at my apartment near our college, and i felt great about it.

There's a slight problem here: I am hard of hearing (categorically deaf..) and I can speak well, she's hearing. That isn't the problem actually. it's just that her major is eating up most of her time - photo major - and it makes her difficult to find some free time. I im'd her most of the time (she knows deaf people tends to im most of the time) and I asked her if she would be available for the weekend to go bowling; I originally intended to take her out to parties but she told me that she isn't a partier. Although she did get superwasted at a house part yesterday.. I hope she had fun. We were suppose to go bowling but apparently she wasn't interested all of the sudden and told me she doesn't have the time for it, I respect that, I really do.

She is in a relationship with someone, only seeing "him" and apparently she hasn't seen him for a very long time. The age gap for him is quite far off by a large margin, either 6-7 years apart. I know this won't work because my sister had dated several older men (like 29-32) and it NEVER works out for her. I am only 4 years apart. Oh, she also told me that she has tons of ex back then. So I would assume she isn't good in terms of relationship - I am only assuming based on my assessment of her.

I am planning to pursue my master degrees in IT by the fall, have to take Graduate Record Examinations (general, not subjects) because I am a bit below 3.0. So if I do get in for another year then I would be able to see her. She only has one more year left before she graduates. I am not sure if she's going to pursue her masters.

I really do like her, and I told her that it's a good ideal to cement a good strong friendship here. She's glad that we're friends. I mean, you don't just meet someone instantly and go into relationship; it takes several steps to get there. I am not stupid.

The only thing I might do something wrong is looking him up via google. His name is everywhere, and he's a PhD in computer science; I guess he's planning to stay in college and teach, who knows. I told her about the google thing and she jokely called me stalker.. and I was like.. "naw, I was curious who that person is" and I did content that he left his website in public, and she did admit that it was open in public. Again, that wasn't a big issue and we're just poking at each other. Other than that, I didn't trip into any known mistakes.

I just need to beef up my confident with her. She's a photo shooter, skinny and extremely beautiful!


Do you have any suggestion how I can get to go out with her more often? I only see her twice a week (massaging class) and she talk for quite some time before or after class, but mostly on instant messaging (AIM or AIM via GMAIL). I only have like 3 weeks to see her; I want to make this one of the best experience for her.

[vashti]

You told her you looked up her boyfriend? Ugh... that might have worked well if you had told her you wanted to check out the competition in a joking way, but I'm not sure the way you handled it was optimal.

It kind of sounds like she isn't really interested in a romantic relationship in any case. I don't think you ought to invest yourself in this emotionally.

[misdirectionx]

You told her you looked up her boyfriend? Ugh... that might have worked well if you had told her you wanted to check out the competition in a joking way, but I'm not sure the way you handled it was optimal.

It kind of sounds like she isn't really interested in a romantic relationship in any case. I don't think you ought to invest yourself in this emotionally.

Well.. I went up to her in person and asked her if she feels offended of what I did, and she said no.

Off-topic: I am partly bald (26 years old) and I think this is due to genetics. Do hot women like partly bald men, or is that a very rare occurrence? Thanks.

[vashti]

People's taste vary, but if it makes you feel any better, I was checking out a young-ish bald guy at work this week.
Of course, I don't think I'd be described as "hot", but rathermore like "wholesome".

[misdirectionx]

People's taste vary, but if it makes you feel any better, I was checking out a young-ish bald guy at work this week.
Of course, I don't think I'd be described as "hot", but rathermore like "wholesome".

Thanks for your input. I noticed most of the hot girls are looking for men with 6 packs abs, spikey hair, glossy eyes, fake color contact lens, shiny white teeth (I understand that aspect..), and sometimes men use oil olay on their face or whatever chemical that makes their face shine.