Don't Know What's Wrong with Me

[Clin Dell12]

There's no such thing as "social anxiety" ... it's a made up psychobabble word for "timid" and "underconfident" Two easy-to-understand concepts you can deal with.

Carl.

I'm not lying when I say I agree, but it's the only word I can think of that encompasses pretty much all my main social issues. Heh, helps me shave off alotta extra explaining.

Are you sure there's a problem, or is there some kind of standard you're feeling you should be living up to? I can't tell if you're simply not interested in dating, or if you are, but you don't know how to go about it. If you find that you're not really interested in anyone yet--and you did specify that you talked to gorgeous girls, but not necessarily intelligent ones, which could be the problem--then consider yourself fortunate. Perhaps you have enough clarity in your judgment of potential partners to know which ones aren't right for you. If you do, however, find a girl that you're dying to be closer to, my biggest recommendation is to take some time and learn about the way women think, and what they generally find attractive. My favorite book so far has been "The System" by Doc Love. Once you understand the way things work, it's almost impossible to be as nervous--you can't fear the unknown once it becomes known!

Hmm. I don't think there's a standard I put myself up to, but I fear there's a chance I might be adhering to one without even noticing. Also, a part of me REALLY longs to do date, but another part is saying," you can't commit! You'll end up marrying the first girl you date!" The other part of me I try to keep away is the part that almost feels like I'd be fine going on forever like this. Just....a lotta unfounded fears I can't shake I guess...