Confused

[mrk2381]

This is a problem concerning 4 chicks none of whom I'm dating (I'm not that crazy to try to handle 4 at a time...3 maybe but 4 is pushing it ) The problem is that I can't decide who to ask out.

The first girl is a beautiful Moldovan who is 20 that seems to like me and is interested in me but at other times the complete opposite. Completely confusing me and causing me to deal with depressive thoughts.

The second girl is also beautiful and is 17 turning 18 in just over a week. We flirt alot when we work together you know the picking on each other throwing bits of food just to start a game of "HA HA Can't Catch Me". But at times though she seems sarcastic to the point where I think that she can't stand me.

The third is also 17 and the one I get along with the most out of all 4. We talk almost everyday either in person or online or on the phone. The problem though is she has a boyfriend who she has been dating for just over 3 years.

The fourth is the youngest at 15 and yes I know what most of you are going to say about her being WAY too young and you're right to think that but please note I'm actually not looking for sex just for a relationship and if I have to wait 3 years to get some because I think shes the one then I will wait 3 years to get some. She flirts with me and I go along with it though not in the way I flirt with girl #2. She constantly tells me how she loves asian guys and it doesn't matter if they're skinny or fat and that its the person on the inside that really matters. But the fact that she is 15 makes me hesitant to even consider her.

Some info on me I'm 20 years old almost 21 in just under a month. So any constructive advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated. Oh and we're all going to a Valentine's Day party together so I hope to make my move then.

[Cain]

You're right about not considering the 15 year old. She shouldn't even be an option.

Anyways, we can't tell you who to pick. This really has to be your decision.

[mrk2381]

I'm not asking anyone to pick for me. I am simply asking for tips on which one I have a better chance with.

[carl1222]

Go with #2 .. although the food fights and "pretending she doesn't like you" is soooooo Jr. high.

I can't say why ... just an impression.


Carl.

[mrk2381]

It did seem kind of childish especially while I was writing that post. If I do go for #2 should I ask her out before I give her her birthday present or after.

[carl1222]

It did seem kind of childish especially while I was writing that post. If I do go for #2 should I ask her out before I give her her birthday present or after.

LOL ... either way, it doesn't matter.

[mrk2381]

I only ask cause I don't want to get her a birthday present before I ask her out and her think its from just a friend and be trapped in the dreaded "Let's just be friends" stage.

[AstroPanther]

The one with the boyfriend is off limits--that's just asking for trouble, and talking to her on the phone almost everyday most likely ensures that you've been in the friend zone for a while now. The one you work with sees you so often that her interest in you might not be as high as you think it is. The fifteen year old is too young, and her age would inevitably create barriers in your relationship (school, living with parents, etc). So that leaves you with the 20 year old. Here is the way you should gauge her interest in you: how often does she contact you? If she likes you, she'll make the effort to be in your presence.

[mrk2381]

Well I actually work with all 4 of them. In fact I trained two of them and am the boss when the store manager isn't there.

[mrk2381]

Well the party happened and only girl 2 and girl 4 showed up. Girl 2 came and went almost immediately just long enough to say hi down a glass of champagne and drop off her secret valentine's gift and girl 4 we all agreed is too young. The party wasn't a complete waste as we all got drunk enough to be in that "I love you man" phase and stayed up until we all had to go into work.

[Cain]

What do you do for work?

Most places have a strict policy regarding bosses dating employees.

[mrk2381]

I work at an ice cream store in the mall. It gives me a steady paycheck while I take classes. And I am aware that some places have a policy against it but it isn't an official policy for the store I work for cause I've talked to the store manager about it and she said as long as the store is making money we can do pretty much whatever. So I interrpreted that as "As long as you do you're job and they do theirs and you don't give them special treatment its ok.

[Cain]

I will say that I think it's rather stupid to be letting a 15 year old drink at a party.

[mrk2381]

We didn't let her drink. She tried but we stopped her.

[Cain]

We didn't let her drink. She tried but we stopped her.

That's better.

Just an assumption since you stated that everyone got drunk.